Malika
Well-Known Member
I am being to feel under seige in the village... This feeling is not objective, probably more than partly paranoia or projection, out of proportion and so on. But I still feel it!
At the moment relations with my closest neighbour are extremely strained, after our last conversation in which he told me that everyone in the village is complaining about J... he also told me that the other neighbours (these are the only three houses in this part of the village), who come here just on on holiday and who are here now have "particularly complained" about him - why? What has he done to them? Nothing, I think, except maybe speak to them, as he does to everyone, as though they were four years old and not separated by a barrier of respect...
Anyway, yesterday J went and talked to another neighbour, further away, who was outside his house pruning a window box. J was doing his usual thing - grabbing hold of things, wanting to play fight with the man, being over-exuberant - and when I went up to "retrieve" him, this man started make all these unpleasant comments like "My goodness - you're really going to have to watch him!", "I bet he's terrible in school, isn't he?" "Four years old and he's like that already!"
All this is typical and I just feel like I'm at breaking point... for **** suck, I wanted to shout (the French equivalent) - what's wrong with you all? We're not in the ****** army - he's just a hyperactive child... Of course I didn't say any of that but just smiled and said "Oh no, he's quite good in school".
But here's the thing... I want to get out of this place! I want to be in Britain which is so far from perfect and paradise but at least you have more chance of meeting with tolerance and good humour on a regular basis or Morocco which is full of hyperactive boys... All this constant carping and drilling of their children and what is all for - does it lead to the development of real human values that actually matter at the end of the day?
Okay, rant over. I am feeling stressed in this place with a little boy whose behaviour is entirely blamed on me. I know that applies in other places too, not just here...
At the moment relations with my closest neighbour are extremely strained, after our last conversation in which he told me that everyone in the village is complaining about J... he also told me that the other neighbours (these are the only three houses in this part of the village), who come here just on on holiday and who are here now have "particularly complained" about him - why? What has he done to them? Nothing, I think, except maybe speak to them, as he does to everyone, as though they were four years old and not separated by a barrier of respect...
Anyway, yesterday J went and talked to another neighbour, further away, who was outside his house pruning a window box. J was doing his usual thing - grabbing hold of things, wanting to play fight with the man, being over-exuberant - and when I went up to "retrieve" him, this man started make all these unpleasant comments like "My goodness - you're really going to have to watch him!", "I bet he's terrible in school, isn't he?" "Four years old and he's like that already!"
All this is typical and I just feel like I'm at breaking point... for **** suck, I wanted to shout (the French equivalent) - what's wrong with you all? We're not in the ****** army - he's just a hyperactive child... Of course I didn't say any of that but just smiled and said "Oh no, he's quite good in school".
But here's the thing... I want to get out of this place! I want to be in Britain which is so far from perfect and paradise but at least you have more chance of meeting with tolerance and good humour on a regular basis or Morocco which is full of hyperactive boys... All this constant carping and drilling of their children and what is all for - does it lead to the development of real human values that actually matter at the end of the day?
Okay, rant over. I am feeling stressed in this place with a little boy whose behaviour is entirely blamed on me. I know that applies in other places too, not just here...