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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 309483" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Sharon ~ not sure about difficult child but the tweedles were masters at this & triangulation. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">They would sabotage anything fun or decent we did for them; be it outings, gifts, new clothes ~ you name it.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">On top of that they would choose a parent (mostly me) that they would dump on & become total jerks. For wm, it may have been the stimulation but I no longer believe that.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Having said that, husband took wm aside & let him know that wm would no longer be treating "his wife" in this manner & that wm didn't want to know the consequences if he did. husband or I had to continually remind the tweedles that husband & I were partners & wouldn't allow our partners to be treated like difficult child treated your husband yesterday. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">As much as we want to see the positives with our difficult children sometimes they just go to far. It's no fun for us - I hated feeling so isolated at times. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I bet you resent hearing from therapist's that your difficult children feel safe & that is why they act out toward you & no one else. I told the therapist a couple of weeks ago (for wm) that I no longer wanted to feel be that safety net for wm. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I finally stopped with little surprises or gifts. Outings were few & far between. It's taken time but kt & wm are getting the idea that I deserve respect.</span></span><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Sorry to go on & on but I feel your pain. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 309483, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Sharon ~ not sure about difficult child but the tweedles were masters at this & triangulation. They would sabotage anything fun or decent we did for them; be it outings, gifts, new clothes ~ you name it. On top of that they would choose a parent (mostly me) that they would dump on & become total jerks. For wm, it may have been the stimulation but I no longer believe that. Having said that, husband took wm aside & let him know that wm would no longer be treating "his wife" in this manner & that wm didn't want to know the consequences if he did. husband or I had to continually remind the tweedles that husband & I were partners & wouldn't allow our partners to be treated like difficult child treated your husband yesterday. As much as we want to see the positives with our difficult children sometimes they just go to far. It's no fun for us - I hated feeling so isolated at times. I bet you resent hearing from therapist's that your difficult children feel safe & that is why they act out toward you & no one else. I told the therapist a couple of weeks ago (for wm) that I no longer wanted to feel be that safety net for wm. I finally stopped with little surprises or gifts. Outings were few & far between. It's taken time but kt & wm are getting the idea that I deserve respect.[/FONT][/SIZE][SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS] Sorry to go on & on but I feel your pain. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS] [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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