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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 217914" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Critter, </p><p> </p><p>Even though you have been a member of this community for a short period of time, my Mom heart went out to you via this post yesterday. My son is just now 18, but time and time over the years we've had to also "ship" him to places to "help" him and there were times we packed his bag or talked about going we both ended up crying. There were other times he left out of my yard in a state car stating he was SOoooooo glad to be out of there. </p><p> </p><p>Please don't ever think you are alone in your wonder of WHAT or HOW or WHO or WHERE, or WHEN. Those 5 w's hit us all every day about our children and their future, their present and their past. I think most of us could tell you we've literally held our breath at some of the things we were told HAD to occur for our children to grow and mature. I know I have. (makes me an excellent diver - lol) ugh. </p><p> </p><p>I think your re<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" />OST about your son's looking forward to it says an enormous lot about where he is mentally and WANTING so badly to mature and be a part of the adult world. When you take care of them for so long and OVER take care of their needs due to trying to make EVERYONE or ANYONE understand your child? It wears you out. And then you feel guilty because ya just can't help but wonder WHAT IF I HAD.....? </p><p> </p><p>But Thursday is Independence day for your son. He's moving to his own apartment, he'll have his own things surrounding him and like any other college age kid on campus - he'll have a couple of roommates he can make life long bonds with. Friendship is so rare for our kids - until they find other kids like themselves with similar uniqunesses. </p><p> </p><p>So Mom - come Thursday - remember when you walk into that place - it IS NOT going to look like home. It's not going to smell like home or be clean like home. However it IS going to resemble a dormitory - and kids his age LIVE for things like that - probably would drag a fridge box out into the back yard if it meant a home of their own. lol. So just keep in mind - this is HIS home and he'll make something out of it. And he can always come to visit. </p><p> </p><p>Let his room sit empty for a while - no need to rush into making it into a thing. That was so painful for me. I grabbed a shirt that smelled like Dude and sat on the edge of his bed, with it up to my face, inhaled and bawled like a baby for a long time. I left the shirt there.....and when I was ready? I moved the things out - donated some things....and turned it into my office. (I turned my office into a closet for ME). </p><p> </p><p>Take plenty of tissue with you - and tell him we're so proud of his big move. OFF to a new adventure!!!!! Way to go Bud! </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 217914, member: 4964"] Critter, Even though you have been a member of this community for a short period of time, my Mom heart went out to you via this post yesterday. My son is just now 18, but time and time over the years we've had to also "ship" him to places to "help" him and there were times we packed his bag or talked about going we both ended up crying. There were other times he left out of my yard in a state car stating he was SOoooooo glad to be out of there. Please don't ever think you are alone in your wonder of WHAT or HOW or WHO or WHERE, or WHEN. Those 5 w's hit us all every day about our children and their future, their present and their past. I think most of us could tell you we've literally held our breath at some of the things we were told HAD to occur for our children to grow and mature. I know I have. (makes me an excellent diver - lol) ugh. I think your re:POST about your son's looking forward to it says an enormous lot about where he is mentally and WANTING so badly to mature and be a part of the adult world. When you take care of them for so long and OVER take care of their needs due to trying to make EVERYONE or ANYONE understand your child? It wears you out. And then you feel guilty because ya just can't help but wonder WHAT IF I HAD.....? But Thursday is Independence day for your son. He's moving to his own apartment, he'll have his own things surrounding him and like any other college age kid on campus - he'll have a couple of roommates he can make life long bonds with. Friendship is so rare for our kids - until they find other kids like themselves with similar uniqunesses. So Mom - come Thursday - remember when you walk into that place - it IS NOT going to look like home. It's not going to smell like home or be clean like home. However it IS going to resemble a dormitory - and kids his age LIVE for things like that - probably would drag a fridge box out into the back yard if it meant a home of their own. lol. So just keep in mind - this is HIS home and he'll make something out of it. And he can always come to visit. Let his room sit empty for a while - no need to rush into making it into a thing. That was so painful for me. I grabbed a shirt that smelled like Dude and sat on the edge of his bed, with it up to my face, inhaled and bawled like a baby for a long time. I left the shirt there.....and when I was ready? I moved the things out - donated some things....and turned it into my office. (I turned my office into a closet for ME). Take plenty of tissue with you - and tell him we're so proud of his big move. OFF to a new adventure!!!!! Way to go Bud! Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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