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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 391589" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>My difficult child is a master maniuplator. If you don't know her - and sometimes even if you do - you can be sucked into the vortex without ever knowing what hit you.</p><p> </p><p>She pulled a good one today. We had tickets to see Billy Elliot (by the way - it was amazing!!!) - my niece had scored them for $25 ea and she, difficult child, and her son were going. Because we are all short on cash for fun things - my niece esp - I told her I'd make dinner and bring it over before the show,rather than go to a restaurant. When I talked to difficult child last night I said "I have photo shoot at 4:00 and we have to leave for L's no later than 5:00, so I'll pick you up at 3:30 (she's at her dad's two blocks away). You can shower and get ready here if you want". I text her this morning - something funny & inconsequential ... no reply. At 12:30, while my basement is flooding and my toilet is exploding (I'm not kidding), she texts me "Hey mom! I'm at Bryan's (boyfriend of two weeks, but at least she met him in real life!), you can pick me up at 3:00 so you won't be late for your job". Bryan lives 1/2 hour away.</p><p> </p><p>Uh. No. Nope. So I call and leave a VM - because OF COURSE she's not going to answer her phone and say "You'll need to get back on your own steam - basement is flooding, toilet is geyersring and I can't carve an hour out of this day". No reply until X calls around 3:00. He wonders why I am refusing to pick her up. I explain and he tells me he'd told her not to go to boyfriend's in the first place. She has left out the part about not telling me until she got there and now she expects him to leave work and get her. He was kind enough to be thinking about me having bought the ticket and was willing to help - until he heard my side. We agree to let her either figure it out or miss the show.</p><p> </p><p>She doesn't get that I can't come later - and neglect to feed my niece and her son. I had their dinner! She tells me Bryan can't get a car until 6:00 - at which point I cheerfully say "Well, then, Bryan can drive you to the theater. The show is at 8:00. You have plenty of time!!! (the theater is 1.5 hours from his home, but who cares?)</p><p> </p><p>Then - and only then - does Bryan's dad's car magically appear and he gets her back in the nick of time.</p><p> </p><p>Sigh.</p><p> </p><p>Then, when I point out that she cannot expect me to pick her up in a location 1/2 hour - one way - from where I expected to pick her up, she says, with completely believable sincerity "Wow, I honestly never thought of that. I'll ask next time." Right. </p><p> </p><p>Sigh, sigh, sigh... </p><p> </p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 391589, member: 9175"] My difficult child is a master maniuplator. If you don't know her - and sometimes even if you do - you can be sucked into the vortex without ever knowing what hit you. She pulled a good one today. We had tickets to see Billy Elliot (by the way - it was amazing!!!) - my niece had scored them for $25 ea and she, difficult child, and her son were going. Because we are all short on cash for fun things - my niece esp - I told her I'd make dinner and bring it over before the show,rather than go to a restaurant. When I talked to difficult child last night I said "I have photo shoot at 4:00 and we have to leave for L's no later than 5:00, so I'll pick you up at 3:30 (she's at her dad's two blocks away). You can shower and get ready here if you want". I text her this morning - something funny & inconsequential ... no reply. At 12:30, while my basement is flooding and my toilet is exploding (I'm not kidding), she texts me "Hey mom! I'm at Bryan's (boyfriend of two weeks, but at least she met him in real life!), you can pick me up at 3:00 so you won't be late for your job". Bryan lives 1/2 hour away. Uh. No. Nope. So I call and leave a VM - because OF COURSE she's not going to answer her phone and say "You'll need to get back on your own steam - basement is flooding, toilet is geyersring and I can't carve an hour out of this day". No reply until X calls around 3:00. He wonders why I am refusing to pick her up. I explain and he tells me he'd told her not to go to boyfriend's in the first place. She has left out the part about not telling me until she got there and now she expects him to leave work and get her. He was kind enough to be thinking about me having bought the ticket and was willing to help - until he heard my side. We agree to let her either figure it out or miss the show. She doesn't get that I can't come later - and neglect to feed my niece and her son. I had their dinner! She tells me Bryan can't get a car until 6:00 - at which point I cheerfully say "Well, then, Bryan can drive you to the theater. The show is at 8:00. You have plenty of time!!! (the theater is 1.5 hours from his home, but who cares?) Then - and only then - does Bryan's dad's car magically appear and he gets her back in the nick of time. Sigh. Then, when I point out that she cannot expect me to pick her up in a location 1/2 hour - one way - from where I expected to pick her up, she says, with completely believable sincerity "Wow, I honestly never thought of that. I'll ask next time." Right. Sigh, sigh, sigh... Dash [/QUOTE]
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