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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 119975" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>First off, the principal is seriously confused about what your roles are here. "Not being on the same wavlength even though you like each other"?? Give me a break - in my humble opinion she's trying to disarm you and negate your role. I think when you walk into a school for a mtg with principal, or IEP or BIP mtg, you are not only difficult child's mom but you are his *advocate*. Principal is not your friend in that setting, she is supposed to be a professional who you, as difficult child's advocate, are working with. As far as you causing friction... well, I'm more than a tad cynical about most SDs at this point, but I think that's a good sign! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Please post over in sped 101. The IEP is *not* something you buy into. As a member of the team, you are instrumental in participating in the writing of it.</p><p> </p><p>I'd also check out VA state regs and their Special Education department website for info on BIPs. A lot of states are now giving much more detail than IDEA about what a BIP is, and the use of "positive behavioral interventions", which is *exactly* what you're trying to get them to do - manage behaviors without escalating. </p><p> </p><p>I'd document your conversation with principal in writing and send certified copies to her, and the members of the IEP team, as well as sped director. I'd include in the letter that you want XYZ (I'm assuming a new BIP, and I'd be real specific about what behaviors you are expecting given his history during this time of year - really common in BiPolar (BP) kiddos - the interventions that you've found to work, and use wording in VA dept of ed documents, if you can find them, regarding positive behavioral interventions). The principal's idea of suspending him and addressing behaviors in BIP after the fact is, in my humble opinion, very close to denying him FAPE in LRE. </p><p> </p><p>I totally understand the sleepless nights - I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 119975, member: 8"] First off, the principal is seriously confused about what your roles are here. "Not being on the same wavlength even though you like each other"?? Give me a break - in my humble opinion she's trying to disarm you and negate your role. I think when you walk into a school for a mtg with principal, or IEP or BIP mtg, you are not only difficult child's mom but you are his *advocate*. Principal is not your friend in that setting, she is supposed to be a professional who you, as difficult child's advocate, are working with. As far as you causing friction... well, I'm more than a tad cynical about most SDs at this point, but I think that's a good sign! ;) Please post over in sped 101. The IEP is *not* something you buy into. As a member of the team, you are instrumental in participating in the writing of it. I'd also check out VA state regs and their Special Education department website for info on BIPs. A lot of states are now giving much more detail than IDEA about what a BIP is, and the use of "positive behavioral interventions", which is *exactly* what you're trying to get them to do - manage behaviors without escalating. I'd document your conversation with principal in writing and send certified copies to her, and the members of the IEP team, as well as sped director. I'd include in the letter that you want XYZ (I'm assuming a new BIP, and I'd be real specific about what behaviors you are expecting given his history during this time of year - really common in BiPolar (BP) kiddos - the interventions that you've found to work, and use wording in VA dept of ed documents, if you can find them, regarding positive behavioral interventions). The principal's idea of suspending him and addressing behaviors in BIP after the fact is, in my humble opinion, very close to denying him FAPE in LRE. I totally understand the sleepless nights - I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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