sounds sorta like my oldest and my husband. I no longer even acknowledge ttheir "differents" - I simply live with whatever part of them is in attendance. What I have been having most difficulty with lately is my easy child.......she seems to be fragmenting. ACK! SOme days I spend my time with the 4 legged family members as best I can, LOL.
Enjoy the 13 yr old kt while she is there. Oatmeal sounds good!
adding: Maybe I get "even" with my husband and kids- some days they call me manic mmommy, some days they call me Hippie mommy, sometimes I am Nazi mama, so maybe I keep them guessing as much as they keep me guessing?