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I can relate to all of the above. We are in renewed contact with DS due to serious legal problems he has created for himself. He is currently in drug treatment and will be transitioning to a halfway house within the next few weeks.


W is obviously more enmeshed than I am. I am renewing my attendance at 12 step meetings and doing a better job of noticing when I grow over-involved.


W  finally accepts that DS needs a structured environment right now if he is ever going to be anything more than a criminal, and her fantasies of him moving in with us and suddenly becoming a functioning young adult have been sufficiently tempered. It is a good thing, because I will not live with DS and won't allow our pet to do so, either. He is volatile and dangerous when he isn't sweet, insightful, and deeply reflective. I will not put myself through it and I'll protect an innocent animal in the bargain.


I cannot force my wife to protect herself. I will always protect me.


I will pray for your son and for your continued healing.


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