I don’t post much but read often. My heart goes out to everyone here and feel deeply for what everyone is gong though. My son is still living in the same house he found to take him in almost a year and half ago when I had to have him removed from here after a short stay. I assume he follows the rules there, little that they be, and I know he doesn’t act the way he did/does with me towards the adult in that house or he would not be there. He works somewhat, he’s let at least one very good job go as is his tendency. I believe he delivers pizza part time for the most part. He has an old car the owner of the house kind of sold to him last year. I don’t know if he’s finished paying for it or not yet. But it’s still on road which I’m sure would not be the case if I had gotten it for him. He’s supposed to be paying $100 a week to stay there but I doubt that’s happening for the most part. I know he’s an avid pot smoker and from the late-night calls and emails I get I know he’s drinking heavily. He doesn’t take medication for his bipolar disorder and now claims he’s not and never was bipolar. He states I “doctor shopped” and gave him medication to “keep him quiet” as a child. With me he’s gone from demanding I make amends for “throwing him out on the street to starve on a whim” to finally now demanding that I “educate myself on the damage psychiatric drugs do to a child, get help for my mental illness, and make amends for all of the abuse he has suffered by my hand.” According to him this is my “only path of redemption” with him. I have had exactly three normal exchanges with him in the last year, which were very quickly followed by his typical upside down/inside out alternate reality accusations and character assignations of me. He’s very eloquent in his writing and his speech. But it comes from a crazed mind which makes it impossible to have a conversation with or respond to an email without setting him off more. I tried for a bit to remind him of how his childhood actually was. From that he tells me I used to be a good mother or maybe I was just faking it back then. As far as everything he’s done to cause himself problems since he started messing with drugs and alcohol and not taking his medication, he seems to easily put it aside as if it never happened and instead insists I created all of his problems. I he doesn’t have much going in the way of friendships and contact with family. He doesn’t have a girlfriend, hasn’t for years. He does see his father once in a while. But his father has told him he won’t talk to him about me at all and does not pressure him to go back to the doctors. The adult in the house where he is living is a nice guy, but with his own issues who believes my son was abused by me. The man received his third DWI in the beginning of February when he got into a car accident. He has gotten a lawyer and has not yet been sentenced but it seems he’s looking at a mandatory six month jail sentence, three months of which could include rehab if he chooses it. I have no idea if the man will close the house for those six months or leave my son and his son in charge during that time. At this point, for about a month, I don’t answer phone calls or respond to emails from my son. He’s proven to me all I’m good for in his eyes is a verbal punching bag whenever something upsets him. I’m over here in my corner still praying for someone to have a positive influence on my son and persuade him to go to a therapist or psychiatrist.