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<blockquote data-quote="Roxona" data-source="post: 687753" data-attributes="member: 19076"><p>I'm pushing extremely hard for the neuropsychological evaluation. I mention it in every conversation with the counselors and with my husband. I'm not anti-medication. I just think we need to know what we're dealing with before we turn to medication...to see if there is a behavioral cognitive therapy that might work better. After three years of trying to be consistent as possible, SS10 just isn't learning or changing his behaviors. He's only getting more angry and aggressive, so now more than ever I think this evaluation is important. I've read the Explosive Child and use the basket concept to the best of my ability. The arguing and fighting between the boys has escalated to a point where it needs to be dealt with in a different way, and we just haven't figured out the best way yet.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Copa, I'll definitely check out this out. I'm all about everyone doing their part and pulling their weight. However, SS10 doesn't cooperate unless forced to do so, and I mean forced. At every opportunity he will bully, fight with and manipulate everyone until they back down and give him his way. Everyone has tried their best to get him to understand his part in all of this and that cooperation is better, but he doesn't see it. He just believes everyone is picking on him, and then he does it more and with more aggression/tenacity. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sister, I think this might be the way to go, too. I've kind of been pushing for this for a long time, but my husband didn't think it was fair. (Everything being "fair" is a huge issue in our house, which means it has to be in SS10's favor or it's not fair...grrr). The psychiatrist told my husband he needs to spend more time cuddling with the boys, and spending time separately with them. I think this idea may be the best way to force him to do it because he is not a naturally snuggly person.</p><p></p><p>I feel bad for SS6, too. He definitely gets the short end of the stick most of the time (which I'm trying to correct).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Roxona, post: 687753, member: 19076"] I'm pushing extremely hard for the neuropsychological evaluation. I mention it in every conversation with the counselors and with my husband. I'm not anti-medication. I just think we need to know what we're dealing with before we turn to medication...to see if there is a behavioral cognitive therapy that might work better. After three years of trying to be consistent as possible, SS10 just isn't learning or changing his behaviors. He's only getting more angry and aggressive, so now more than ever I think this evaluation is important. I've read the Explosive Child and use the basket concept to the best of my ability. The arguing and fighting between the boys has escalated to a point where it needs to be dealt with in a different way, and we just haven't figured out the best way yet. Copa, I'll definitely check out this out. I'm all about everyone doing their part and pulling their weight. However, SS10 doesn't cooperate unless forced to do so, and I mean forced. At every opportunity he will bully, fight with and manipulate everyone until they back down and give him his way. Everyone has tried their best to get him to understand his part in all of this and that cooperation is better, but he doesn't see it. He just believes everyone is picking on him, and then he does it more and with more aggression/tenacity. Sister, I think this might be the way to go, too. I've kind of been pushing for this for a long time, but my husband didn't think it was fair. (Everything being "fair" is a huge issue in our house, which means it has to be in SS10's favor or it's not fair...grrr). The psychiatrist told my husband he needs to spend more time cuddling with the boys, and spending time separately with them. I think this idea may be the best way to force him to do it because he is not a naturally snuggly person. I feel bad for SS6, too. He definitely gets the short end of the stick most of the time (which I'm trying to correct). [/QUOTE]
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