Hi all. It's been a couple of weeks since I last posted. We've been busy getting SS10 into counseling. We've been to about five counseling session and were referred to a psychiatrist for medication review. I don't usually attend the counseling sessions, but did go to the initial appointment with the psychiatrist. I had to leave the appointment early so I could be home in time to catch SS6 when he got home from school, but before I left I advised that I believed he needed a neuropsychiatric evaluation. Instead of setting up the evaluation, the doctor prescribed 5mg of Ritalin per day. Nothing has been done to schedule the evaluation to date. My husband said that the doctor said we needed to medicate SS10 for the ADHD before an evaluation could be done. I personally thought that would be counterintuitive. Wouldn't the medications mask the symptoms SS10 is having and alter the evaluation results??? Husband tried the medications on SS10 this weekend to no effect. However, SS10 had was massively raging again at bedtime last night, and my husband has put a call into the doctor. SS10 complains that his raging was due to SS6 telling on him. SS10 complains that SS6 tells on him all the time to get him into trouble and also tells everyone at school about SS10's issues. In some regards SS6 does tell on his brother for things that he shouldn't, and we have had numerous conversations about this with SS6. However, SS10 bullies SS6 all the time, and SS6 has reached the age and point where he is sick of it. So are all the other kids in the neighborhood, and there has been massive retaliation against SS10 by everyone. So, in a nutshell SS6 is at times trying to get SS10 into trouble. He doesn't like that SS10 tries to set his own rules while everyone else has to live within the house rules. He doesn't like SS10 constantly bullying him and telling him what to do and how to do it. He is learning that other kids won't play with him because his brother is bullying everyone else, so he betrays his brother in order for others to like and play with him. I believe SS6 would stop/outgrow tattling on his brother if his brother weren't so overbearing, but we can't get SS10 to stop bullying and being in everyone's face, and so the cycle continues to spiral. Every time we address this with SS10, he has a massive rage and feels like we are persecuting him. We have been trying to prevent situations from occurring, so we don't set SS10 up for failure where he a awarded a negative consequence, but we can't prevent everything, and I don't believe ignoring SS10's behavior/bullying will solve anything. Short of moving one kid to one house and one kid to another house, we are in a catch 22 and are having a hard time figuring how to nip this mess in the bud. A lot of these rages happen at bed time...probably more so than at any other time of day. As I sit here, I am beginning to think that maybe we need to stagger bed times, so that they are not reverberating off of each other. The one going to bed at an earlier time will not think it's fair, but I can't think of any other way at this point. Anyone have any suggestions?