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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 687818" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>I was just thinking about my own kids and my 9 year old would be mortally offended if he had to go to bed at the same time as the 6 year old. He is only "a kindergarten baby" after all LOL.</p><p></p><p>Incidentally, I have a snitch, too. It's a hard line to walk. You want your kids to tell the truth, and you want to know what is going on, especially when it pertains to somebody's safety or welfare, but on the other hand no one likes a snitch. </p><p></p><p>I think that you could also use the later bedtime to your advantage. Pull a little psychological manipulation, you know, "you are older, ready for more responsibility" yada yada, then explain to him that if he wants to keep this bedtime he has to prove that he is responsible enough for it by going to bed without fuss.</p><p></p><p>If I remember correctly your husband is the difficult one in this, in that he has trouble setting limits and sticking to them, but I think having a set bedtime routine, that the child is aware of ahead of time helps. You know, shower, brush teeth, 15 minutes of reading, drink and bathroom, then lights out at whatever time you determined. ...and stick to it, regardless of the pleas for another chapter, or "I need a drink!" I would also remove all electronics from both bedrooms. The American Academy of Pediatrics is firm on electronics being too stimulating and disrupting sleep.</p><p></p><p>I understand the desire to keep things fair, and kids love to cry "not fair!" That's also a difficult line to walk. You might put it to your husband that making a 5th grader go to bed the same time as a kindergartner really isn't fair.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 687818, member: 20051"] I was just thinking about my own kids and my 9 year old would be mortally offended if he had to go to bed at the same time as the 6 year old. He is only "a kindergarten baby" after all LOL. Incidentally, I have a snitch, too. It's a hard line to walk. You want your kids to tell the truth, and you want to know what is going on, especially when it pertains to somebody's safety or welfare, but on the other hand no one likes a snitch. I think that you could also use the later bedtime to your advantage. Pull a little psychological manipulation, you know, "you are older, ready for more responsibility" yada yada, then explain to him that if he wants to keep this bedtime he has to prove that he is responsible enough for it by going to bed without fuss. If I remember correctly your husband is the difficult one in this, in that he has trouble setting limits and sticking to them, but I think having a set bedtime routine, that the child is aware of ahead of time helps. You know, shower, brush teeth, 15 minutes of reading, drink and bathroom, then lights out at whatever time you determined. ...and stick to it, regardless of the pleas for another chapter, or "I need a drink!" I would also remove all electronics from both bedrooms. The American Academy of Pediatrics is firm on electronics being too stimulating and disrupting sleep. I understand the desire to keep things fair, and kids love to cry "not fair!" That's also a difficult line to walk. You might put it to your husband that making a 5th grader go to bed the same time as a kindergartner really isn't fair. [/QUOTE]
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