Roxona, I've probably told you this before, but I totally get why your husband crashed and burned with the parenting after his wife passed. I did the same thing. You guys are making a lot of positive changes. I think your game of Risk will improve daily. I would so love to see J slithering down the stairs.
[USER=20051]@Sister's Keeper[/USER]
Five under ten! You so need to give us a signature on this group of littles. 
I totally agree with no screens in the bedrooms after bedtime. If you're going to be up and sneaky at least be reading a book.