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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 704003" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Albatross, your ability to hold firm with kindness and love through this onslaught is inspiring. I don't think you were cold at all. You expressed support each time, you didn't lose your mind and start in with 'what are you thinking I told you so blah blah blah' and you empowered him to work it out. You were awesome!!</p><p>Part of the illness our kids suffer is their impetuousness and inability to tolerate mental or emotional discomfort. He thrashed around and tried to avoid it, and tried to make you the solution..but you held firm and let him have his process. And he came through. And maybe, just maybe, at some future date he'll have some memory of that time he reacted so fast and tried to run away. It it turned out no such drastic action was required and it was ok to stay put.</p><p>They don't realize that wherever they go they take themselves along.</p><p>Maybe this was a step towards his realizing that. Not an actual fulfillment, but a step. And you, with your warrior mom love and firmness, helped him get there.</p><p>You could have ignored his texts.</p><p>You could have pointed out in all kinds of mean, true, legit ways that this is all his fault and he is a dumbass.</p><p>You could have bailed him out.</p><p>But you didn't do any of those things.</p><p>You did the perfect thing. You parented your D.C. through a tough time without enabling or becoming enmeshed.</p><p>Woot woot, drinks all around for our Alb!</p><p></p><p>And seriously, sit back and own that. You did great. Be proud.</p><p></p><p>Echo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 704003, member: 17269"] Albatross, your ability to hold firm with kindness and love through this onslaught is inspiring. I don't think you were cold at all. You expressed support each time, you didn't lose your mind and start in with 'what are you thinking I told you so blah blah blah' and you empowered him to work it out. You were awesome!! Part of the illness our kids suffer is their impetuousness and inability to tolerate mental or emotional discomfort. He thrashed around and tried to avoid it, and tried to make you the solution..but you held firm and let him have his process. And he came through. And maybe, just maybe, at some future date he'll have some memory of that time he reacted so fast and tried to run away. It it turned out no such drastic action was required and it was ok to stay put. They don't realize that wherever they go they take themselves along. Maybe this was a step towards his realizing that. Not an actual fulfillment, but a step. And you, with your warrior mom love and firmness, helped him get there. You could have ignored his texts. You could have pointed out in all kinds of mean, true, legit ways that this is all his fault and he is a dumbass. You could have bailed him out. But you didn't do any of those things. You did the perfect thing. You parented your D.C. through a tough time without enabling or becoming enmeshed. Woot woot, drinks all around for our Alb! And seriously, sit back and own that. You did great. Be proud. Echo. [/QUOTE]
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