Like other dcs on this board, my son is in a marijuana-legal state. He was working day labor and camping in the woods but fortunately found a job of sorts, working on a weed farm outside of town, in exchange for room and board and free samples of the crop. Pretty much a “dream job” for a Difficult Child. It worked out well too in that he had no access to transportation and no money, making it very difficult for him to drink. The week before last we were chatting and he was being belligerent, so I cut the conversation short. Last week he called from a Crisis Stabilization Unit. He changed details of his story many times, but the basics are that once a week he has been getting rides into town, working day labor, buying “a few beers,” and hiking to a campsite to spend the night, then back to the farm. He claims that this time he hurt his knee and it gave out, forcing him to crawl and limp back from his campsite to town. He Baker Acted himself because he had nowhere to go. His blood alcohol level was high enough to be admitted to detox, so I think it is more likely he intended to drink to the point of passing out (which is the only way he drinks), then realized he was in trouble because it was 11 degrees and he had no coat, only a hoodie. That is probably why he was taken to the CSU. Before now he had seen snow only once in his life, so he doesn’t have much respect for cold climates. I can’t get this out of my head, that he COULD have drunk enough to pass out, that he probably even intended to do so. Had he succeeded, this would have ended very differently. Last night he called, saying he hates the cold, hates his boss, hates not having any money…hates being in the same spot for more than a few weeks. He is going to quit his job, go back to his campsite “with lots of layers of clothing” and work day labor to try to get airfare together to head to a warmer climate, where he claims he has a roommate and a job lined up (also questionable). He won’t be dissuaded from his plan, though he did at least agree to reserve a bed at a hostel. Of course he can't drink at the hostel, so I don't know how long that will last... What is the right thing to do here? Do we help him get to a warmer climate so I at least know he won't freeze to death when he passes out? Or do we let him figure it out, even in the face of his terrible judgment and lack of appreciation for winter and determination to drink no matter what the consequences? I know what I would probably tell any other mom who asked me what to do…but I can’t wrap my head or heart around the fact that he willingly walked miles out of town in winter with no coat, just so he could get drunk. I have even contemplated whether this constitutes enough of “being a danger to self” to somehow force him into longer treatment than a few days in a crisis unit. What are your thoughts?