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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 704196" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Well, that went well.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child is in a detox unit after a 3-day meth binge.</p><p></p><p>He worked 1 day of day labor to try to save up some money toward his ticket, then decided he would stay in CO, he says because there was a girl he wanted to hook up with but she "made" him do meth, and that's when all of this started.</p><p></p><p>First he said he has never tried meth before and had a reaction, then later said he has done it before but it never hit him like this, so he had to go to detox.</p><p></p><p>He claims that there are drug dealers who are trying to kill him because he had an adverse reaction to their product and it's "bad for business" and he can't go back to the shelter because the dealers are there.</p><p></p><p>He wasn't making much sense about the dealers.</p><p></p><p>He was very clear that the only safe place he can go is Hawaii, where there is a sober living house to his liking.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that is waiting in Hawaii is ex-girlfriend, who has a meth problem, but he says she is in sober living and he can be too, and they can be sober together.</p><p></p><p>The last time they were together they were NOT sober together and he made several phone calls asking us to rescue him because she was so dangerous.</p><p></p><p>He says there are NO sober living houses in CO, nor are there rehabs or counselors or social workers or shelters he can go to, apparently.</p><p></p><p>And it wouldn't matter anyway, because CO is not "a good fit" for him, and he refuses to stay there.</p><p></p><p>Absent our paying his full airfare to Hawaii immediately, he will discharge himself from detox tomorrow and go live in the woods until he can save up enough money to get himself to Hawaii.</p><p></p><p>Even though there is a front moving in and the high will be 11 degrees, and he still claims he has no coat.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Echo, I definitely did #1. Boy did I ever do #1.</p><p></p><p>At one point he had to ask the staff to turn the volume down on the phone because I was screaming so loudly.</p><p></p><p>I don't remember what all I said, but it wouldn't surprise me if the word dumbass came up several times.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately I calmed down a bit and told him, "Difficult Child, this is said with great love and I hope you listen carefully to what I am telling you.</p><p></p><p>"You do not have the foundation to get yourself to Hawaii. You do not have the foundation to get yourself through more than a day at a time. If you have any money in your pocket, you will spend it getting high.</p><p></p><p>"You need a real rehab, like a 28-day rehab. And you need to stop treating this like 3 hots and a cot. If you don't recognize you have a problem, we are afraid you are going to die.</p><p></p><p>"Dad and I will be the first ones there if you recognize you need help, but I just don't see that from you right now."</p><p></p><p>He said he knows he has a problem, but the only place he is willing to go to is Hawaii, with his ex-girlfriend, so they can get sober together.</p><p></p><p>I told him I didn't see that happening, and that we were not going to send him to Hawaii.</p><p></p><p>He told me that was fine, that he just wanted me to know he was ok, that he had to go, and that he would be discharging himself from detox tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>I told him that we loved him and he disconnected the call. That was it.</p><p></p><p>husband and I talked about it at great length afterward, and we both feel he is not ready. We both feel that acceding to his demand for airfare to Hawaii is not only unreasonable, but we are just trading one good chance of harm for another and not solving anything. So we are just letting this one fall where it may.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 704196, member: 17720"] Well, that went well. Difficult Child is in a detox unit after a 3-day meth binge. He worked 1 day of day labor to try to save up some money toward his ticket, then decided he would stay in CO, he says because there was a girl he wanted to hook up with but she "made" him do meth, and that's when all of this started. First he said he has never tried meth before and had a reaction, then later said he has done it before but it never hit him like this, so he had to go to detox. He claims that there are drug dealers who are trying to kill him because he had an adverse reaction to their product and it's "bad for business" and he can't go back to the shelter because the dealers are there. He wasn't making much sense about the dealers. He was very clear that the only safe place he can go is Hawaii, where there is a sober living house to his liking. The other thing that is waiting in Hawaii is ex-girlfriend, who has a meth problem, but he says she is in sober living and he can be too, and they can be sober together. The last time they were together they were NOT sober together and he made several phone calls asking us to rescue him because she was so dangerous. He says there are NO sober living houses in CO, nor are there rehabs or counselors or social workers or shelters he can go to, apparently. And it wouldn't matter anyway, because CO is not "a good fit" for him, and he refuses to stay there. Absent our paying his full airfare to Hawaii immediately, he will discharge himself from detox tomorrow and go live in the woods until he can save up enough money to get himself to Hawaii. Even though there is a front moving in and the high will be 11 degrees, and he still claims he has no coat. Echo, I definitely did #1. Boy did I ever do #1. At one point he had to ask the staff to turn the volume down on the phone because I was screaming so loudly. I don't remember what all I said, but it wouldn't surprise me if the word dumbass came up several times. Ultimately I calmed down a bit and told him, "Difficult Child, this is said with great love and I hope you listen carefully to what I am telling you. "You do not have the foundation to get yourself to Hawaii. You do not have the foundation to get yourself through more than a day at a time. If you have any money in your pocket, you will spend it getting high. "You need a real rehab, like a 28-day rehab. And you need to stop treating this like 3 hots and a cot. If you don't recognize you have a problem, we are afraid you are going to die. "Dad and I will be the first ones there if you recognize you need help, but I just don't see that from you right now." He said he knows he has a problem, but the only place he is willing to go to is Hawaii, with his ex-girlfriend, so they can get sober together. I told him I didn't see that happening, and that we were not going to send him to Hawaii. He told me that was fine, that he just wanted me to know he was ok, that he had to go, and that he would be discharging himself from detox tomorrow. I told him that we loved him and he disconnected the call. That was it. husband and I talked about it at great length afterward, and we both feel he is not ready. We both feel that acceding to his demand for airfare to Hawaii is not only unreasonable, but we are just trading one good chance of harm for another and not solving anything. So we are just letting this one fall where it may. [/QUOTE]
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