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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 705141" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It is not genetic or a fact that everyone continues trying to protect adult children. If we do, it is often more for us than for them and it ruins our lives.</p><p></p><p>I think most mothers, yes mothers, realize a time when it is no longer good to try to parent. If we have disabled adult children who will need help, we also need to find them resources and let go. We can't live forever. We can dearly love our adult children without the need to keep trying to parent them.</p><p></p><p>Not meaning to be harsh, but it is normal and natural to protect a child when he is young, But not to parent a grown man or woman. And they don't like it and won't let us anyway UNLESS they are helpless, either truly or have learned helplessness, and can get money and other sustaining factors from us.</p><p></p><p>I say this with a loving heart and good intentions. I certainly could be wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 705141, member: 1550"] It is not genetic or a fact that everyone continues trying to protect adult children. If we do, it is often more for us than for them and it ruins our lives. I think most mothers, yes mothers, realize a time when it is no longer good to try to parent. If we have disabled adult children who will need help, we also need to find them resources and let go. We can't live forever. We can dearly love our adult children without the need to keep trying to parent them. Not meaning to be harsh, but it is normal and natural to protect a child when he is young, But not to parent a grown man or woman. And they don't like it and won't let us anyway UNLESS they are helpless, either truly or have learned helplessness, and can get money and other sustaining factors from us. I say this with a loving heart and good intentions. I certainly could be wrong. [/QUOTE]
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