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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 705200" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>If you see he is trying to change his life and life throws a curve ball, you help temporarily. However, if it is constant call for help and you are not seeing any progress on his end, that it is just a repeat of the previous day or week, then you say FREEZE. I love you and I am sure you will figure out a way to get pass this new problem.</p><p></p><p>I recently had to do this my own son who was doing well but back-slid and moved out of his safe home because he wanted to live with an old friend who had used him in the past but he was just so much fun. Well he learned the hard way when that friend suckered him out of his rent money and left him high and dry. Son called and told me he moved back. Great. But he had no clothes he left everything at the friends place. I bought him clothes. Then he called just other day and wondered if I was sending money for his birthday, day after xmas. I said no, I spend money on new clothes and that is all I am doing for you. You need to remember your decision to move and that it has reprecussions. He said but it's my birthday, I want to see a movie. I said oh well, when you get your check next month, go to a movie.</p><p></p><p>He was mad but called next day and apologized for making such a bad decision and he understood why I wouldn't send him money.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 705200, member: 19951"] If you see he is trying to change his life and life throws a curve ball, you help temporarily. However, if it is constant call for help and you are not seeing any progress on his end, that it is just a repeat of the previous day or week, then you say FREEZE. I love you and I am sure you will figure out a way to get pass this new problem. I recently had to do this my own son who was doing well but back-slid and moved out of his safe home because he wanted to live with an old friend who had used him in the past but he was just so much fun. Well he learned the hard way when that friend suckered him out of his rent money and left him high and dry. Son called and told me he moved back. Great. But he had no clothes he left everything at the friends place. I bought him clothes. Then he called just other day and wondered if I was sending money for his birthday, day after xmas. I said no, I spend money on new clothes and that is all I am doing for you. You need to remember your decision to move and that it has reprecussions. He said but it's my birthday, I want to see a movie. I said oh well, when you get your check next month, go to a movie. He was mad but called next day and apologized for making such a bad decision and he understood why I wouldn't send him money. [/QUOTE]
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