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<blockquote data-quote="Mamacat" data-source="post: 705288" data-attributes="member: 20962"><p>Same thing happens to me. She left the abuser for the umpteenth time. Everytime she leaves, I think okay, this is it. Now she's moving forward. Well, this particular time she needed a car. She had asked me about 2 months previously. I said no because she was still with abuser. She got mad said horrible things to me and didn't let me see my granddaughters for about 2 months. Then I wrote my amends as part of CODA 12 steps and all was fine again. That should have been a clue. But no.....fast forward and she's left abuser again this time with promises of getting a good job. She's a college grad. So I sold her my car, the end of march. To date ,I've received $200 from a $4,000 tax refund. So, did she lie? Did she have good intentions at the moment? Someone told me I keep trying to think rationally about an irrational person. Now she doesn't speak to me again because I said no to her recent request. Plus she moved out of state and abuser moved there also. I'm praying for help to let go. I just never thought she'd lie to me, but I was wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamacat, post: 705288, member: 20962"] Same thing happens to me. She left the abuser for the umpteenth time. Everytime she leaves, I think okay, this is it. Now she's moving forward. Well, this particular time she needed a car. She had asked me about 2 months previously. I said no because she was still with abuser. She got mad said horrible things to me and didn't let me see my granddaughters for about 2 months. Then I wrote my amends as part of CODA 12 steps and all was fine again. That should have been a clue. But no.....fast forward and she's left abuser again this time with promises of getting a good job. She's a college grad. So I sold her my car, the end of march. To date ,I've received $200 from a $4,000 tax refund. So, did she lie? Did she have good intentions at the moment? Someone told me I keep trying to think rationally about an irrational person. Now she doesn't speak to me again because I said no to her recent request. Plus she moved out of state and abuser moved there also. I'm praying for help to let go. I just never thought she'd lie to me, but I was wrong. [/QUOTE]
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