Ok- as some of you may remember I posted last week about my difficult child and him having another doctor appointment and speech therapy so I wanted to update and ask a few more questions. First we went to the therapy appointment. and I was really disappointed in the whole process. He cannot/would not cooperate with them. They wanted him to look at pictures and tell them what is was etc. all the while they are blowing bubbles at him and had a TON of toys in there too. He cannot concentrate on what they want him to do with all that going on, so he got upset and had a meltdown. The therapist did not even tell me what she thought about his speech, they were supposed to address his feeding trouble(sensory etc.) and it was never even mentioned. And she told him that next time they would play the whole time. Why would I drive 45 minutes and waste gas and insurance for him to go play?? So how should I handle that? Then he had his psyc. appoinment with the doctor that handles his medications and diagnosis. I told her about his symptoms getting worse and medication not working etc. She said she could not do anything until he was 4. He is only 3 weeks from being 4. Will 3 weeks really make a difference? She added a morning dose of Clonidine which I thought to be kinda stupid because the evening dose has NO effect either. She stepped out for a minute and I looked at her notes.(maybe should not have) She put on them rule out Apergers/Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). She NEVER mentioned this to me. Why?? He starts pre-k next month and I am so afraid he won't be able to function but docs say he really needs to go. Should I tell the school that he has these problems? I am afraid that if I do they won't take him? Has anyone has this happen? How do I handle it? further more I feel like I am losing my mind. husband and I are at odds over all this because he thinks difficult child is too spoiled but I don't. Granted, we have tried all the time outs, spanking, taking toys away etc. and it has not worked and now seeing her notes I feel bad for punishing him if he cannot help his behavior. Plus financial issues add to the stress and I feel like throwing my hands up and walking out. I fhe thinks he can do so much better then he can have them and see how it is. He says difficult child minds him better which is not really true. I just feel like crying and asking God why??? Sorry this has been so long and drawn out but this is the only place I have to talk with people who understand. Any feedback would be MUCH appreciated. I am SO grateful to all of you who post reply's. Oh, one more thing, someone posted and link for a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) screening tool and based on it he has moderate Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD).