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UPDATE: difficult child is in psychiatric hospital....my worst nightmare
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 145946" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>All the hugs and good thoughts in the world for you. </p><p> </p><p>I want you to think about this and maybe it will help you to help her more. </p><p> </p><p>IF she did NOT need to be where she is - she wouldn't be. Doctors just do not observe a child and then zap them into a psychiatric hospital. So if your husband believes he wouldn't have - I'd explain that to him. </p><p> </p><p>Second - Since she needs to be there - isn't it better to find out NOW while she's younger rather than wait until she's running through the halls at say 14,15,16 and saying all the same things or getting into big person trouble? Left untreated, without therapy - your daughter has less of a chance of finding help - as they grow older they don't WANT help - they can fix it themselves and then you have to worry about teenage hormones and THAT is NOT the time to start treating her for WHATEVER this disorder is. </p><p> </p><p>AND LAstly - IF IF IF it is MERELY behavioral??? And not organic - they WHY oh WHY wouldn't any parent want that pointed out to them so they could ALL (MOM DAD AND DAUGHTER) get some therapy and counseling??? There is no good reason to refuse that. You want what's best for your child - period. </p><p> </p><p>I had to put my food down with DF too - AND I did sign up for parenting classes, and family therapy - and we took Dude to therapy as well (2x a week for all of us for 4 years!) </p><p> </p><p>-All I can tell you is you can either pay now - or pay later. If you decide to ignore what's going on or pretend it isn't real - then you are not doing her any favors. If you pay later the stakes get MUCH higher with adult charges, and drugs and promiscuity - Better to do as much now and STAND behind your decisions to allow things for her to start getting better. </p><p> </p><p>It is hard - no one wants to see their kid in a phos. Mine was taken in a K-9 transport unit, with dog hair and pee and handcuffed because there was no other cop available the day I took him to the hospital. He was angry, he had pooped his pants, he had tried to kick 2 cops to which I was told he COULD be arrested for assualt on an officer!!! AT SIX YEARS OLD - and finally for tearing up the ER. </p><p> </p><p>I cried every day too - until an old nurse that had worked in the prison system told me what I told you - "Honey you can either pay now or you can pay later - and later usually means incarceration, drugs and then there isn't the help for them like there is for the kids." </p><p> </p><p>I've kept that with me - and every time I think I've made a bad choice or second guess myself - I wonder now at 17 looking at 15 years in prison - how much worse it WOULD have been for him. </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there - you can educate yourself and support your daughter. We're here for you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 145946, member: 4964"] All the hugs and good thoughts in the world for you. I want you to think about this and maybe it will help you to help her more. IF she did NOT need to be where she is - she wouldn't be. Doctors just do not observe a child and then zap them into a psychiatric hospital. So if your husband believes he wouldn't have - I'd explain that to him. Second - Since she needs to be there - isn't it better to find out NOW while she's younger rather than wait until she's running through the halls at say 14,15,16 and saying all the same things or getting into big person trouble? Left untreated, without therapy - your daughter has less of a chance of finding help - as they grow older they don't WANT help - they can fix it themselves and then you have to worry about teenage hormones and THAT is NOT the time to start treating her for WHATEVER this disorder is. AND LAstly - IF IF IF it is MERELY behavioral??? And not organic - they WHY oh WHY wouldn't any parent want that pointed out to them so they could ALL (MOM DAD AND DAUGHTER) get some therapy and counseling??? There is no good reason to refuse that. You want what's best for your child - period. I had to put my food down with DF too - AND I did sign up for parenting classes, and family therapy - and we took Dude to therapy as well (2x a week for all of us for 4 years!) -All I can tell you is you can either pay now - or pay later. If you decide to ignore what's going on or pretend it isn't real - then you are not doing her any favors. If you pay later the stakes get MUCH higher with adult charges, and drugs and promiscuity - Better to do as much now and STAND behind your decisions to allow things for her to start getting better. It is hard - no one wants to see their kid in a phos. Mine was taken in a K-9 transport unit, with dog hair and pee and handcuffed because there was no other cop available the day I took him to the hospital. He was angry, he had pooped his pants, he had tried to kick 2 cops to which I was told he COULD be arrested for assualt on an officer!!! AT SIX YEARS OLD - and finally for tearing up the ER. I cried every day too - until an old nurse that had worked in the prison system told me what I told you - "Honey you can either pay now or you can pay later - and later usually means incarceration, drugs and then there isn't the help for them like there is for the kids." I've kept that with me - and every time I think I've made a bad choice or second guess myself - I wonder now at 17 looking at 15 years in prison - how much worse it WOULD have been for him. Hang in there - you can educate yourself and support your daughter. We're here for you! [/QUOTE]
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