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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 252149" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>That is such really great news.</p><p></p><p>I often talk about the need to sometimes change our mindset towards our kids. That doesn't necessarily mean that we're wrong about our kids, but sometimes we just need to see them from a different angle.</p><p></p><p>In your case - I think the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) diagnosis that overturned the other stuff, helped you change your mindset towards your son. he's still the same child, but your angle of view has subtly changed and somewhere in there, he has sensed (at last) that you are his salvation, hhis support and his strength.</p><p></p><p>It's often a Catch 22 situation - when we're constantly battling with our kids (out of necessity generally, but still being reactive because we haven't yet found the key we need to be able to be proactive) then we have a lot of trouble moving forward.</p><p></p><p>But once it 'clicks' - then it's like magic.</p><p></p><p>I don't think you will jinx yourself. You've had some success, nothing will take away this period of success. There will undoubtedly be times when the "midden hits the windmill" but hey, it happens. You can see the degree to which anxiety is/has been playing a big part in your son's behaviour problems; rthere will be times again when he is troubled by anxiety. But as he gets older and he learns, and you learn, how to deal with the anxiety more successfully, the problems will be lessened and further apart. Every period of success paves the way for more success.</p><p></p><p>You may find new problems further down the track, but it sounds like you've got a good start happening!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 252149, member: 1991"] That is such really great news. I often talk about the need to sometimes change our mindset towards our kids. That doesn't necessarily mean that we're wrong about our kids, but sometimes we just need to see them from a different angle. In your case - I think the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) diagnosis that overturned the other stuff, helped you change your mindset towards your son. he's still the same child, but your angle of view has subtly changed and somewhere in there, he has sensed (at last) that you are his salvation, hhis support and his strength. It's often a Catch 22 situation - when we're constantly battling with our kids (out of necessity generally, but still being reactive because we haven't yet found the key we need to be able to be proactive) then we have a lot of trouble moving forward. But once it 'clicks' - then it's like magic. I don't think you will jinx yourself. You've had some success, nothing will take away this period of success. There will undoubtedly be times when the "midden hits the windmill" but hey, it happens. You can see the degree to which anxiety is/has been playing a big part in your son's behaviour problems; rthere will be times again when he is troubled by anxiety. But as he gets older and he learns, and you learn, how to deal with the anxiety more successfully, the problems will be lessened and further apart. Every period of success paves the way for more success. You may find new problems further down the track, but it sounds like you've got a good start happening! Marg [/QUOTE]
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