Well, BM has a good grip on dealing with difficult child. So we thought anyway. STBX still has his head in the sand. BM and I are getting along really well. She knows I want difficult child to get better and will do everything I can do to help her. BM told me difficult child was stealing again and she wanted to have her cop friends come over and arrest difficult child to scare the **** out of her. That didn't happen. But, I'm a paralegal student and have the local States Attorney as one of my professors. I was asking him what can we do. So, Friday he had a meeting with BM and difficult child. He scared the **** out of her (so we thought), brought in a detective and told her exactly what would happen to her if she stole again. Well... Saturday BM goes out to the store, leaving her husband home with difficult child, her siblings and cousin. difficult child and cousin were "pretending" to smoke pretzels. They lit them. When they heard BM's husband coming, they thru the lit pretzels in a closet. Cousin told the husband what they were doing.
Come to find out, difficult child threatened cousin saying if she didn't do what she was told, difficult child would kill her and another friend. BM has grounded difficult child to her room.. no clue for how long. When BM told me this yesterday, my immediate reaction was 1) press charges and 2) get her admitted to a pysch hospital ASAP. Neither happened. I am terrified to send my daughter to her Dad's house... STBX now changed weekends with BM so he has both girls at the same time. I have called the states attorney and left a message. I am also going to the pro se clinic this afternoon to see what I can do to stop visits. I do not trust STBX with watching both difficult child and daughter together. daughter has already complained to me that STBX doesn't do anything but watch TV. And I know how he is when he's watching TV. He lives with his mother and both of them think difficult child does no wrong.
I am scared. Very scared. All I want is for both girls to be safe....
Come to find out, difficult child threatened cousin saying if she didn't do what she was told, difficult child would kill her and another friend. BM has grounded difficult child to her room.. no clue for how long. When BM told me this yesterday, my immediate reaction was 1) press charges and 2) get her admitted to a pysch hospital ASAP. Neither happened. I am terrified to send my daughter to her Dad's house... STBX now changed weekends with BM so he has both girls at the same time. I have called the states attorney and left a message. I am also going to the pro se clinic this afternoon to see what I can do to stop visits. I do not trust STBX with watching both difficult child and daughter together. daughter has already complained to me that STBX doesn't do anything but watch TV. And I know how he is when he's watching TV. He lives with his mother and both of them think difficult child does no wrong.
I am scared. Very scared. All I want is for both girls to be safe....