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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 454695" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am sorry that the people involved are still jerking you around. I think you need to expect this and take steps to protect yourself and your rights. This means get an attorney to fight for YOU. Not for difficult child's best interests, or for punishment for difficult child or help for difficult child, one to fight for YOU - your safety, your well being and your rights. in my opinion these people have violated YOU and YOUR RIGHTS and at a very bare minimum have been responsible for a huge wedge driven between you and difficult child. I think the entire court system for kids in your state needs to be strung up and hung in a mass execution and then people with some experience should be brought in to try to actually help the people involved. But that won't happen so really, ALL you can do right now is fight for your rights and hope that at some point down the road your difficult child will wise up and realize that you are not the enemy and that ynou are truly scared of him due to NO fault of your own and ONLY due to his actions.</p><p></p><p>In no way should you be forced to take him home and it is incredibly abusive to you to have a PO even SUGGEST t. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop contact with the PO's and other CSU people. I know lawyers are expensive but you NEED one to step in and deal with all of this koi. Given ALL that difficult child has learned in juvie, and that he has been told over and over and over by PO's, attorneys, and other CSU people that the only reason he is in there and the only reason he "can't" come home is YOU - I am quite terrified for your safety if difficult child comes to live with you. He will be angry about something, anything, and it will ALL be taken out on you. Next time it won't be stealing $$ from you with a knife by cutting your clothes. He will get angry and be violent iwth you. He could probably kill you quite easily, given the strength adn temper he surely has and the lack of control and anger that is festering because so many people have fed him so many lies about your for so long.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE stand your ground and do not let him come live iwth you again. It will be a recipe for lifelong incarceration in adult prison because all his rage over being locked up is aimed at your because the PO's tell them all sorts of bs and so has everyone int he system. That rage will boil over at YOU, possible while you are asleep, and you may not survive it. He sure won't keep his freedom intact, and there is NO WAY that at 17 they would charge him as a kid, esp given his juvie record.</p><p></p><p>He is the type who will use every tiny bit of advantage to do what he wants and his sheer physical size give him a LOT of advantages if he is living in your home with you.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry. You have truly been hosed by this juvenile system, and in many ways so has difficult child. difficult child just has learned how to take even more advantage when given a tiny opportunity - and how to become a far better liar while incarcerated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 454695, member: 1233"] I am sorry that the people involved are still jerking you around. I think you need to expect this and take steps to protect yourself and your rights. This means get an attorney to fight for YOU. Not for difficult child's best interests, or for punishment for difficult child or help for difficult child, one to fight for YOU - your safety, your well being and your rights. in my opinion these people have violated YOU and YOUR RIGHTS and at a very bare minimum have been responsible for a huge wedge driven between you and difficult child. I think the entire court system for kids in your state needs to be strung up and hung in a mass execution and then people with some experience should be brought in to try to actually help the people involved. But that won't happen so really, ALL you can do right now is fight for your rights and hope that at some point down the road your difficult child will wise up and realize that you are not the enemy and that ynou are truly scared of him due to NO fault of your own and ONLY due to his actions. In no way should you be forced to take him home and it is incredibly abusive to you to have a PO even SUGGEST t. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop contact with the PO's and other CSU people. I know lawyers are expensive but you NEED one to step in and deal with all of this koi. Given ALL that difficult child has learned in juvie, and that he has been told over and over and over by PO's, attorneys, and other CSU people that the only reason he is in there and the only reason he "can't" come home is YOU - I am quite terrified for your safety if difficult child comes to live with you. He will be angry about something, anything, and it will ALL be taken out on you. Next time it won't be stealing $$ from you with a knife by cutting your clothes. He will get angry and be violent iwth you. He could probably kill you quite easily, given the strength adn temper he surely has and the lack of control and anger that is festering because so many people have fed him so many lies about your for so long. PLEASE stand your ground and do not let him come live iwth you again. It will be a recipe for lifelong incarceration in adult prison because all his rage over being locked up is aimed at your because the PO's tell them all sorts of bs and so has everyone int he system. That rage will boil over at YOU, possible while you are asleep, and you may not survive it. He sure won't keep his freedom intact, and there is NO WAY that at 17 they would charge him as a kid, esp given his juvie record. He is the type who will use every tiny bit of advantage to do what he wants and his sheer physical size give him a LOT of advantages if he is living in your home with you. I am so sorry. You have truly been hosed by this juvenile system, and in many ways so has difficult child. difficult child just has learned how to take even more advantage when given a tiny opportunity - and how to become a far better liar while incarcerated. [/QUOTE]
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