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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 572099" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>Oh, how similar our stories appear. Only, husband would never really consider giving custody to biomom here. She is also a recovering addict and I believe that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is playing a role in difficult child. It is fortunate that your difficult child's biomom is willing to take him and that she has no other children in the home, I wish the best for both of them! Here, I am having to make plans in secret to leave with my younger son. (No sexual abuse that I know of, just violence and emotional tolls.) </p><p></p><p>What struck me last night while reading your other post was the fact that your 6 yr old told you that you couldn't stop him from letting difficult child touch him in order to be accepted and "loved" by difficult child. That just broke my heart and terrified me at the same time, because that is how my 3 yr old seems to think, also. Just a few days ago I heard easy child cry out that he was telling "Mom", and then a crash in the kitchen and easy child crying in earnest. In the time it took me to hurry into the kitchen, difficult child had easy child in his lap (on the floor, where he had just tackled him so he couldn't get to me and "tell" on difficult child), rocking him, petting his head, and telling him he loved him. easy child was actually apologizing to difficult child! The caught out look on difficult child's face when he saw me standing there was telling. The next day I was having a private talk with easy child and asking him if difficult child ever hurts him, and he started talking about that incident. He asked me "Mom, why didn't you DO anything about it?". Yeah, we are going to go to a different state to live with my brother for a bit, until I get my strength of mind back. If we come back, it will not be to live with husband and difficult child. =(</p><p></p><p>I am so glad that you see the need and are strong enough to protect your younger children! I don't think I saw how your husband reacted to this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 572099, member: 14139"] Oh, how similar our stories appear. Only, husband would never really consider giving custody to biomom here. She is also a recovering addict and I believe that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is playing a role in difficult child. It is fortunate that your difficult child's biomom is willing to take him and that she has no other children in the home, I wish the best for both of them! Here, I am having to make plans in secret to leave with my younger son. (No sexual abuse that I know of, just violence and emotional tolls.) What struck me last night while reading your other post was the fact that your 6 yr old told you that you couldn't stop him from letting difficult child touch him in order to be accepted and "loved" by difficult child. That just broke my heart and terrified me at the same time, because that is how my 3 yr old seems to think, also. Just a few days ago I heard easy child cry out that he was telling "Mom", and then a crash in the kitchen and easy child crying in earnest. In the time it took me to hurry into the kitchen, difficult child had easy child in his lap (on the floor, where he had just tackled him so he couldn't get to me and "tell" on difficult child), rocking him, petting his head, and telling him he loved him. easy child was actually apologizing to difficult child! The caught out look on difficult child's face when he saw me standing there was telling. The next day I was having a private talk with easy child and asking him if difficult child ever hurts him, and he started talking about that incident. He asked me "Mom, why didn't you DO anything about it?". Yeah, we are going to go to a different state to live with my brother for a bit, until I get my strength of mind back. If we come back, it will not be to live with husband and difficult child. =( I am so glad that you see the need and are strong enough to protect your younger children! I don't think I saw how your husband reacted to this? [/QUOTE]
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