HH, my daughter has always been very selfish, too...even as a young child.
You are exactly on the mark about calling their hands, too. My daughter gets INCENSED whenever I initiate a serious discussion regarding her. My husband noted that the only time we can talk about anything of substance with her is if SHE initiates the conversation. Even then, she will cut us right off if she feels the least bit of discomfort or pressure.
