Ok so we went to court on Wed morning due to difficult child's arrest for assaulting husband tuesday. The judge dismissed all the charges with out asking for our opinion so difficult child got away with attacking is father!! So the judge told us we had until 5 pm to pick him up, so we left went home and called the team from the mental health facility for some guidance as what to do with him. They advised us to take him straight to the hospital and have him re-commited again!!(what a joke this is). So the care advocate and I went to pick difficult child up at the jail and went straight to the hospital and again waited for the crisis team to evaluate him. husband arrived shortly after us and than waited 2 hours for the evaluation. They recommended that he be put back in the hospital due to the safety of everyone at home. So of course there were no beds that night so we had to go home and wait on availability (again). But while waiting for them to do this difficult child showed some of his true colors. He asked the care advocate to make me and husband leave so he could talk to his mom in private. the care advocate told him no he would not but he could ask us nicely but we didnt have to leave him alone to talk. difficult child than made a motion with his arm telling husband to leave and of course husband was aggrivated by this and told the nurse to end the phone call and he would not be able to make anymore calls. The nurse did not no what to do, so husband got up and unplugged the phone. (the good thing was that the care advocate from our team saw the aggresion and defiance for us.)
So now Thursday I got a call in the afternoon advising that there was a hospital about 3 hours from us that could take him for up to 7 days, and a wait list for the hospital that just released him last saturday or a group home. So I called husband and we decided that maybe a group home would be the way to go as difficult child moonlights at the hospitals as difficult child gets all the attention he wants and has no school work or chores to do there. So now they placed him in the group home last night. We went before difficult child to sign papers and see the place. Oh my this place is horrible, just old and sheets in the windows instead of curtains. Well we feel that maybe difficult child has more of a chance of showing who he is because there is structure but they have to earn all privledges to do things.
They will evaluate him for the next week and we will see what happens. We were informed that we are not allowed contact with difficult child for 2 weeks as he has to get situated there. So now we have our counselors going in to see him as well so we can get feedback from them and not just take the word of the group home. difficult child has psychiatric evaluation on monday morning and we have another meeting to see exactly what we are looking at with placing difficult child either long term here at this group home or Residential Treatment Center (RTC).
We are just really lost as usual, but feel our hands are tied as there is not enough options.
We have put in calls to all the news channels, with the hopes to get some coverage on our story. We have contacted some attorneys for disability law. We are just waiting for some calls back.
I took easy child to the airport yesterday and he will be staying with my parents until the 23rd. He is on spring break now and he could use the break.
We are just exhausted as we don't know if this is the group home is the right choice, but husband now knows he cant be at home.
So now Thursday I got a call in the afternoon advising that there was a hospital about 3 hours from us that could take him for up to 7 days, and a wait list for the hospital that just released him last saturday or a group home. So I called husband and we decided that maybe a group home would be the way to go as difficult child moonlights at the hospitals as difficult child gets all the attention he wants and has no school work or chores to do there. So now they placed him in the group home last night. We went before difficult child to sign papers and see the place. Oh my this place is horrible, just old and sheets in the windows instead of curtains. Well we feel that maybe difficult child has more of a chance of showing who he is because there is structure but they have to earn all privledges to do things.
They will evaluate him for the next week and we will see what happens. We were informed that we are not allowed contact with difficult child for 2 weeks as he has to get situated there. So now we have our counselors going in to see him as well so we can get feedback from them and not just take the word of the group home. difficult child has psychiatric evaluation on monday morning and we have another meeting to see exactly what we are looking at with placing difficult child either long term here at this group home or Residential Treatment Center (RTC).
We are just really lost as usual, but feel our hands are tied as there is not enough options.
We have put in calls to all the news channels, with the hopes to get some coverage on our story. We have contacted some attorneys for disability law. We are just waiting for some calls back.
I took easy child to the airport yesterday and he will be staying with my parents until the 23rd. He is on spring break now and he could use the break.
We are just exhausted as we don't know if this is the group home is the right choice, but husband now knows he cant be at home.
