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<blockquote data-quote="C.J." data-source="post: 254340" data-attributes="member: 1987"><p>Gwenny,</p><p></p><p>I don't know what to say about prosecuting attorneys, judges, and the juvenile justice system. In my county, my difficult child was prosecuted for stealing $18 from another difficult child at school. An attorney was appointed to represent her (she refused to admit she took the money). There was a trial. She was found guilty, and served a 6 month probaation, and had to pay the $18.00 to the other kid.</p><p></p><p>At the same time, N*'s sperm donor owed over $24,000.00 in child support. As a direct result of her prosecution, I hounded that same district attorney's office to put as much effort in prosecuting that "crime" as they did for N*'s crime. I finally prevailed.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I used those two examples to illustrate just how confusing, contradictory, and exasperating dealing with the various bureaucracies (whether it is the justice system, mental health, social services, insurance, medicaid, etc.) can be. They can be worse than dealing with a difficult child sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Like TL said, don't be too concerned about sheets at the windows - difficult child's destroy things in RTCs too. At the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) N* was at, there were no ladders or guard rails for the top bunk bed. When I asked, I was told the guard rails and ladders were often broken for spite or used as weapons. I even contacted the accreditation board for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s for confirmation - they were right. </p><p></p><p>I was more concerned that the staff was communicating with me, that they were listening to my concerns, and were working in N*'s best interest. There were times I stepped on toes, and went to supervisors or directors, and did that only when communication back to me was not forthcoming.</p><p></p><p>I hope easy child has a great time with your parents, and I hope you and husband have some time to talk and get on the same page for difficult child. Doing that will work wonders for both of you.</p><p></p><p>Special hugs for all of you today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="C.J., post: 254340, member: 1987"] Gwenny, I don't know what to say about prosecuting attorneys, judges, and the juvenile justice system. In my county, my difficult child was prosecuted for stealing $18 from another difficult child at school. An attorney was appointed to represent her (she refused to admit she took the money). There was a trial. She was found guilty, and served a 6 month probaation, and had to pay the $18.00 to the other kid. At the same time, N*'s sperm donor owed over $24,000.00 in child support. As a direct result of her prosecution, I hounded that same district attorney's office to put as much effort in prosecuting that "crime" as they did for N*'s crime. I finally prevailed. Anyway, I used those two examples to illustrate just how confusing, contradictory, and exasperating dealing with the various bureaucracies (whether it is the justice system, mental health, social services, insurance, medicaid, etc.) can be. They can be worse than dealing with a difficult child sometimes. Like TL said, don't be too concerned about sheets at the windows - difficult child's destroy things in RTCs too. At the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) N* was at, there were no ladders or guard rails for the top bunk bed. When I asked, I was told the guard rails and ladders were often broken for spite or used as weapons. I even contacted the accreditation board for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s for confirmation - they were right. I was more concerned that the staff was communicating with me, that they were listening to my concerns, and were working in N*'s best interest. There were times I stepped on toes, and went to supervisors or directors, and did that only when communication back to me was not forthcoming. I hope easy child has a great time with your parents, and I hope you and husband have some time to talk and get on the same page for difficult child. Doing that will work wonders for both of you. Special hugs for all of you today. [/QUOTE]
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