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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 548148" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Wow, so glad that Jumper is not with J also and is determined to be on her own for a little bit...It is important for her to figure out who she is and what she wants before she decides to share herself and time with another boyfriend. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">When easy child fell in love for the first time it was with Casper...he was two years older than her. I immediately had reservations because my mom used to always wonder aloud, "Now why would a 19 year old man with all the freedom in the world want to date an underage girl? Hmmm" Mom was right! Why indeed?? To intimidate and control her----due to his own insecurities about himself, that's why!</span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Also, I notice (and have had discussions with both difficult child and easy child about this and they agree) that many relationships are built on this wierd kind of 'ownership' and control by the young men these days more and more. I think some men are threatened by the fact that women can have independence and so once they are dating, they try to intimidate them and control them, in particular with first loves. easy child gave up almost all her friends when she was with Casper. easy child is a weirdo anyway about relationships as she tends to only be able to handle one on one type of friendships as well so when she is dating someone, that one friend takes a backseat and often falls apart and then all she has left is the boyfriend, Know what I mean?? But she's never had a 'circle' of girlfriends - wish she did. </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">I once suggested to both my girls to 'play the field', date a few different guys to see what else is out there and they both looked at me like I had four heads. They said, in unison, "Mom, people don't do that anymore". Apparently, only one at a time or you come across as a ****, even if you're not having sex with them...I don't get that! I think dating should make a comeback so they can all see what else is out there. How will they be able to know they've found Mr/Mrs Right if they've only one or two people in their short lives?? </span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p><p><span style="color: #008080"><span style="font-size: 10px">Hugs to you mom, don't beat yourself up...you acted on what you knew at the time. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 548148, member: 2211"] [COLOR=#008080][SIZE=2]Wow, so glad that Jumper is not with J also and is determined to be on her own for a little bit...It is important for her to figure out who she is and what she wants before she decides to share herself and time with another boyfriend. When easy child fell in love for the first time it was with Casper...he was two years older than her. I immediately had reservations because my mom used to always wonder aloud, "Now why would a 19 year old man with all the freedom in the world want to date an underage girl? Hmmm" Mom was right! Why indeed?? To intimidate and control her----due to his own insecurities about himself, that's why! Also, I notice (and have had discussions with both difficult child and easy child about this and they agree) that many relationships are built on this wierd kind of 'ownership' and control by the young men these days more and more. I think some men are threatened by the fact that women can have independence and so once they are dating, they try to intimidate them and control them, in particular with first loves. easy child gave up almost all her friends when she was with Casper. easy child is a weirdo anyway about relationships as she tends to only be able to handle one on one type of friendships as well so when she is dating someone, that one friend takes a backseat and often falls apart and then all she has left is the boyfriend, Know what I mean?? But she's never had a 'circle' of girlfriends - wish she did. I once suggested to both my girls to 'play the field', date a few different guys to see what else is out there and they both looked at me like I had four heads. They said, in unison, "Mom, people don't do that anymore". Apparently, only one at a time or you come across as a ****, even if you're not having sex with them...I don't get that! I think dating should make a comeback so they can all see what else is out there. How will they be able to know they've found Mr/Mrs Right if they've only one or two people in their short lives?? Hugs to you mom, don't beat yourself up...you acted on what you knew at the time. [/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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