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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 431179" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Thanks all <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Malika, he turned a corner quite a few years ago after I had him go try living with his father. The terms to come home were being a healthy functioning member of this family and refusal to allow him to return if it meant chaos again, which none of us were willing to live with anymore. I knew he would want to return, I didn't know it would take him near to a year of growing more difficult child before he'd decide he wanted home again. But when he came home, he started turning it all around. Sheer will perhaps? I don't really know. I know he has said often that the best thing I ever did for him was that tough love approach. I wish it was a magic serum I could share with other struggling difficult child's. I tend to think it was just determination on his part, mixed with the knowledge that I was standing my ground. Maybe we'll never know fully well all of the why's. </p><p></p><p>He hasn't been motivated to do much, or think ahead. He hasn't been any sort of help in the house although he became enjoyable to have in the home and we grew very close again, as we hadn't been for probably 8 years before. He just turned 18 and moved across the country with his g/f. I think his motivation was huge to move out of our town, something he's wanted for years. His g/f is 23 (to his 18) and has a good career and very responsible too so it keeps him wanting to do more, dream a bit bigger than he did. It's been a great move for him <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 431179, member: 4264"] Thanks all :) Malika, he turned a corner quite a few years ago after I had him go try living with his father. The terms to come home were being a healthy functioning member of this family and refusal to allow him to return if it meant chaos again, which none of us were willing to live with anymore. I knew he would want to return, I didn't know it would take him near to a year of growing more difficult child before he'd decide he wanted home again. But when he came home, he started turning it all around. Sheer will perhaps? I don't really know. I know he has said often that the best thing I ever did for him was that tough love approach. I wish it was a magic serum I could share with other struggling difficult child's. I tend to think it was just determination on his part, mixed with the knowledge that I was standing my ground. Maybe we'll never know fully well all of the why's. He hasn't been motivated to do much, or think ahead. He hasn't been any sort of help in the house although he became enjoyable to have in the home and we grew very close again, as we hadn't been for probably 8 years before. He just turned 18 and moved across the country with his g/f. I think his motivation was huge to move out of our town, something he's wanted for years. His g/f is 23 (to his 18) and has a good career and very responsible too so it keeps him wanting to do more, dream a bit bigger than he did. It's been a great move for him :) [/QUOTE]
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