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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 124912" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Masta</p><p> </p><p>Your difficult child and her boyfriend remind me of husband and I when we were first married. (at least in this post)</p><p> </p><p>I didn't just love husband, honestly I think I was obessed with him. (maybe not the best word) In my eyes he could honestly do no wrong. Even if I might think it was wrong I'd find ways to justify it. We were dirt poor during the first years of our marriage. Food was scarce, easy child went without clothing except what my Mom and husband's Mom bought for xmas and bdays, and she spent most of her time in pjs.</p><p> </p><p>My poor Mom was sooooo frustrated. And she tried to make me see reality. But I refused to see it because I wanted the perfect husband, the perfect marriage, the perfect family senerio. I was determined if I loved him enough I could make it happen. (almost gags me now lol)</p><p> </p><p>But now matter what, unless it was taking me to the grocery, Mom refused to help. mother in law helped too much. (bless her heart) But it was my mother's refusal to help and her explainations as to WHY she was refusin to help that nagged at me until I finally opened my eyes to the reality of the situation.</p><p> </p><p>At the time it hurt that she wouldn't help. Sometimes I got mad when she wouldn't help.</p><p> </p><p>Still I always called her when something went wrong or I needed someone to talk to. Even though I KNEW she was gonna tell me exactly what I didn't want to hear.</p><p> </p><p>When I think back on those early years now, I'm grateful that she didn't help and gave me her reasons. I'm grateful she was still willing to listen to me each time I called even though I know most of the time she wanted to strangle me out of pure frustration. But I'm pretty darn sure I'd have never wised up if it hadn't been for her counsil. (took me almost 10 yrs as it was ugh)</p><p> </p><p>No, I'd not let her move back in with you. I'd help with things that don't involve money. Be her sounding board. If she hears it enough it will eventually sink in. I think that if mother in law had done what my mother did, the process would have been much faster.</p><p> </p><p>I know you're worried about the baby. I would be too. Has she done WIC yet? They'll give her cereal, eggs, peanut butter, milk, cheese, beans, rice, juice......she won't eat great til welfare kicks in, but she won't starve either.</p><p> </p><p>Sending ((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 124912, member: 84"] Masta Your difficult child and her boyfriend remind me of husband and I when we were first married. (at least in this post) I didn't just love husband, honestly I think I was obessed with him. (maybe not the best word) In my eyes he could honestly do no wrong. Even if I might think it was wrong I'd find ways to justify it. We were dirt poor during the first years of our marriage. Food was scarce, easy child went without clothing except what my Mom and husband's Mom bought for xmas and bdays, and she spent most of her time in pjs. My poor Mom was sooooo frustrated. And she tried to make me see reality. But I refused to see it because I wanted the perfect husband, the perfect marriage, the perfect family senerio. I was determined if I loved him enough I could make it happen. (almost gags me now lol) But now matter what, unless it was taking me to the grocery, Mom refused to help. mother in law helped too much. (bless her heart) But it was my mother's refusal to help and her explainations as to WHY she was refusin to help that nagged at me until I finally opened my eyes to the reality of the situation. At the time it hurt that she wouldn't help. Sometimes I got mad when she wouldn't help. Still I always called her when something went wrong or I needed someone to talk to. Even though I KNEW she was gonna tell me exactly what I didn't want to hear. When I think back on those early years now, I'm grateful that she didn't help and gave me her reasons. I'm grateful she was still willing to listen to me each time I called even though I know most of the time she wanted to strangle me out of pure frustration. But I'm pretty darn sure I'd have never wised up if it hadn't been for her counsil. (took me almost 10 yrs as it was ugh) No, I'd not let her move back in with you. I'd help with things that don't involve money. Be her sounding board. If she hears it enough it will eventually sink in. I think that if mother in law had done what my mother did, the process would have been much faster. I know you're worried about the baby. I would be too. Has she done WIC yet? They'll give her cereal, eggs, peanut butter, milk, cheese, beans, rice, juice......she won't eat great til welfare kicks in, but she won't starve either. Sending ((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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