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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 125114" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Boy, she sounds so much like my niece, it's unbelievable! She's a bright, beautiful girl whose self-esteem is so low it's almost undectable. She's been with the same loser guy for several years now, on and off. Then, next thing we knew, she'd <em>married</em> the fool and was expecting a baby! My brother refers to his sister in law as "Bozo". Bozo treats her like cr@p, works when he feels like, IF he feels like it, is totally irresponsible, self centered and arrogant. He drinks too much, spends every dime he gets on partying, and is totally worthless. My niece thinks he's <em>wonderful</em>!</p><p> </p><p>When the baby came, Bozo strutted around for a while playing the proud new dad bragging about <u>his</u> son, but that's about all he did. He never changed a diaper, never got up with him, never fed him, never bathed him, never played with him - not even once. My brother and his wife hoped that their daughter would finally be responsible enough to put the babys needs first, to make <u>him</u> the priority, but he's 18 months old now and it isn't happening! She's still catering to Bozo, putting him first, trying desperately to keep him happy, and of course he never will be! Two weeks after the baby was born she was recovering from a C-section, on antibiotics for an infection, exhausted from lack of sleep and caring for a newborn. But Bozo wanted to go bar-hopping and wanted her to go with him and she didn't want to tell him "no"! So the baby spent the weekend with his grandparents so she could keep Bozo happy by doing what he wanted! He has cheated on her, left her alone for days with the baby with no phone, no car, very little food in the house, and no money. She <em>still</em> thinks he's wonderful! She has left him and came home several times but in a few days she's right back with him again. She actually did file for divorce once and Bozo was all for it until he realized that he would have to pay <em>child support</em>, which would mean that he'd have to get and keep a real job, just like the rest of the adults! So he promptly told her that he loved her and missed her and didn't want a divorce, and she went right back to him again!</p><p> </p><p>So now, at 18 months old, the baby is happy and healthy and spends every weekend, at least four days a week, with his grandparents while his parents run around. Can't have a little thing like YOUR CHILD cramping your style, can you! My niece had to choose between making her baby her priority or her worthless husband, and she apparently made her choice. HE will always come first with her. He still cheats on her, calls her names, works only when he feels like it, and spends every dime in the bars. And my niece worships the ground he slithers on! My brother and sister-in-law are supporting the baby and pretty much raising him - they buy his food, his diapers and his clothes and pay all his doctor bills. He calls my brother "Daddy". Kind of ironic that just about the same time they were realizing that they would be raising this grandchild, their own youngest child (my nephew) was graduating from high school! So now at age 57, with their own kids all grown up, they are starting all over again with another baby to raise!</p><p> </p><p>I really hope it turns out differently for your daughter and grandchild. In my experience though, my brothers situation is far from uncommon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 125114, member: 1883"] Boy, she sounds so much like my niece, it's unbelievable! She's a bright, beautiful girl whose self-esteem is so low it's almost undectable. She's been with the same loser guy for several years now, on and off. Then, next thing we knew, she'd [I]married[/I] the fool and was expecting a baby! My brother refers to his sister in law as "Bozo". Bozo treats her like cr@p, works when he feels like, IF he feels like it, is totally irresponsible, self centered and arrogant. He drinks too much, spends every dime he gets on partying, and is totally worthless. My niece thinks he's [I]wonderful[/I]! When the baby came, Bozo strutted around for a while playing the proud new dad bragging about [U]his[/U] son, but that's about all he did. He never changed a diaper, never got up with him, never fed him, never bathed him, never played with him - not even once. My brother and his wife hoped that their daughter would finally be responsible enough to put the babys needs first, to make [U]him[/U] the priority, but he's 18 months old now and it isn't happening! She's still catering to Bozo, putting him first, trying desperately to keep him happy, and of course he never will be! Two weeks after the baby was born she was recovering from a C-section, on antibiotics for an infection, exhausted from lack of sleep and caring for a newborn. But Bozo wanted to go bar-hopping and wanted her to go with him and she didn't want to tell him "no"! So the baby spent the weekend with his grandparents so she could keep Bozo happy by doing what he wanted! He has cheated on her, left her alone for days with the baby with no phone, no car, very little food in the house, and no money. She [I]still[/I] thinks he's wonderful! She has left him and came home several times but in a few days she's right back with him again. She actually did file for divorce once and Bozo was all for it until he realized that he would have to pay [I]child support[/I], which would mean that he'd have to get and keep a real job, just like the rest of the adults! So he promptly told her that he loved her and missed her and didn't want a divorce, and she went right back to him again! So now, at 18 months old, the baby is happy and healthy and spends every weekend, at least four days a week, with his grandparents while his parents run around. Can't have a little thing like YOUR CHILD cramping your style, can you! My niece had to choose between making her baby her priority or her worthless husband, and she apparently made her choice. HE will always come first with her. He still cheats on her, calls her names, works only when he feels like it, and spends every dime in the bars. And my niece worships the ground he slithers on! My brother and sister-in-law are supporting the baby and pretty much raising him - they buy his food, his diapers and his clothes and pay all his doctor bills. He calls my brother "Daddy". Kind of ironic that just about the same time they were realizing that they would be raising this grandchild, their own youngest child (my nephew) was graduating from high school! So now at age 57, with their own kids all grown up, they are starting all over again with another baby to raise! I really hope it turns out differently for your daughter and grandchild. In my experience though, my brothers situation is far from uncommon. [/QUOTE]
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