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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 612960" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This isn't just bio. mom's fault. It's the system. As you said, no suicidal/homicidal child should be walking around just waiting to kill himself or maybe do a school shooting. I again recommend not allowing him to visit you. I'm at a loss as to why you allow it when you know he could seriously harm somebody. The psychiatrist really isn't probably going to be the one who finally sends him to residential treatment. It will likely be social services or the criminal justice system. </p><p></p><p>I don't remember if you have other kids or pets, but if so guard them with your life when SS is over and I'd put an alarm on his door so that he can't get out to the rest of the house when you are sleeping. That's when a lot of the trouble happens. You need to protect your house and the rest of the family. Lock up all knives. If you have firearms make sure they are locked up or not even in the house when SS is there. Ditto for matches, lighters, anything he can cause mayhem with. Look, he is way too damaged to get worse just by not following your rules and playing on the Laptop as much as he wants. in my opinion just let him do it until he is no longer visiting you. This kid is a worthy adversary and could be a threat to you if he doesn't get to do what he wants to do. Parenting him well will not help him. He is past that. He is also I'm sure getting taller and stronger. Hormones will kick in. Whatever is wrong is only going to get worse. Take care of yourself. You matter as much as he does.</p><p></p><p>Here's hoping he finds a safe place that can watch him 24/7 soon and that until then you find a way to say "no" to bio. mom when she wants to send him over for a visit. Or at least maybe your husband can take him to a hotel and not allow him to be around you and the rest of the family. This is serious and your husband should not allow it. JMO.</p><p></p><p>Update us on psychiatrist!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 612960, member: 1550"] This isn't just bio. mom's fault. It's the system. As you said, no suicidal/homicidal child should be walking around just waiting to kill himself or maybe do a school shooting. I again recommend not allowing him to visit you. I'm at a loss as to why you allow it when you know he could seriously harm somebody. The psychiatrist really isn't probably going to be the one who finally sends him to residential treatment. It will likely be social services or the criminal justice system. I don't remember if you have other kids or pets, but if so guard them with your life when SS is over and I'd put an alarm on his door so that he can't get out to the rest of the house when you are sleeping. That's when a lot of the trouble happens. You need to protect your house and the rest of the family. Lock up all knives. If you have firearms make sure they are locked up or not even in the house when SS is there. Ditto for matches, lighters, anything he can cause mayhem with. Look, he is way too damaged to get worse just by not following your rules and playing on the Laptop as much as he wants. in my opinion just let him do it until he is no longer visiting you. This kid is a worthy adversary and could be a threat to you if he doesn't get to do what he wants to do. Parenting him well will not help him. He is past that. He is also I'm sure getting taller and stronger. Hormones will kick in. Whatever is wrong is only going to get worse. Take care of yourself. You matter as much as he does. Here's hoping he finds a safe place that can watch him 24/7 soon and that until then you find a way to say "no" to bio. mom when she wants to send him over for a visit. Or at least maybe your husband can take him to a hotel and not allow him to be around you and the rest of the family. This is serious and your husband should not allow it. JMO. Update us on psychiatrist! [/QUOTE]
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