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<blockquote data-quote="scaredofhim" data-source="post: 615065" data-attributes="member: 17051"><p>Last night was horrible. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Bio mom called us at 10:45PM just as we were getting ready to go to bed. Apparently she had been fighting with SS all evening over charges she found on her credit card bill that SS charged for gaming related things online. He denied it of course. It was for hundreds of dollars and this isn't the first time. She was trying to take away his laptop in the middle of him denying he charged the stuff. This is not the first time he has used one of her credit card numbers to get funds for memberships on all these different gaming sites. She already had to call the credit card company and report fraudulent charges for the other card that he charged stuff on. Anyway he was screaming at the top of his lungs, hitting her, telling her if she takes his electronics he is going to kill himself. The psychiatrist said when we met with him that if SS gets violent, the options are to bring him to the hospital for crisis intervention, or call law enforcement. And bio mom doesn't want to call the cops. And last night even my husband said that he didn't really want the cops called because if SS winds up in juvie then we have lost him forever. The reason husband is having this change of opinion about calling the police is because everyone has been telling husband that juvie is horrible and that if SS has to go there it will ruin him even further and he will never have a normal life. I tried to point out that doing nothing at all is going to turn out the same way, because he will get violent and hurt someone badly and then there will be no choice but to call the police and he will be taken away anyway. I don't understand why bio mom can't see it and now why my husband can't see it. Bio mom doesn't want to take him to the hospital because she claims she can't afford it but she makes six figures and has excellent insurance, so I am not buying that excuse. She was screaming at SS on the phone, SS was screaming back at her and husband, husband was having to practically yell to try and talk to either one of him and husband was really upset when we finally got off the phone with bio mom. He said maybe he should just take SS and get a place to live with him somewhere else so no one else will have to deal with him. I felt like someone kicked me in the stomach when he said that. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I was speechless, hurt, and haven't slept all night. SS has already run his mom's husband off and they are divorced now. I am not about to lose my marriage because of SS. I don't know how I can get husband to realize that taking SS somewhere else to live and trying to parent him is not going to solve the problem because he is mentally ill and he is beyond what normal parenting can do. He needs to be in residential treatment or a therapeutic foster home and parented from a distance. I am feeling so lost and hurt this morning. After God, I put my husband first priority in my life. And after he said what he did to me last night, I don't feel like he is putting me first if he is willing to leave our home and live with SS somewhere else, which we cannot even afford. I pray to God he didn't mean what he said and just said it out of frustration at the situation. Midwest Mom, how can CPS help? I think the prosecutor did give that to bio mom as another option but of course she hasn't done that either. Someone please talk to me today because I am in tears this morning. Please continue to keep us in your prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scaredofhim, post: 615065, member: 17051"] Last night was horrible. :( :( Bio mom called us at 10:45PM just as we were getting ready to go to bed. Apparently she had been fighting with SS all evening over charges she found on her credit card bill that SS charged for gaming related things online. He denied it of course. It was for hundreds of dollars and this isn't the first time. She was trying to take away his laptop in the middle of him denying he charged the stuff. This is not the first time he has used one of her credit card numbers to get funds for memberships on all these different gaming sites. She already had to call the credit card company and report fraudulent charges for the other card that he charged stuff on. Anyway he was screaming at the top of his lungs, hitting her, telling her if she takes his electronics he is going to kill himself. The psychiatrist said when we met with him that if SS gets violent, the options are to bring him to the hospital for crisis intervention, or call law enforcement. And bio mom doesn't want to call the cops. And last night even my husband said that he didn't really want the cops called because if SS winds up in juvie then we have lost him forever. The reason husband is having this change of opinion about calling the police is because everyone has been telling husband that juvie is horrible and that if SS has to go there it will ruin him even further and he will never have a normal life. I tried to point out that doing nothing at all is going to turn out the same way, because he will get violent and hurt someone badly and then there will be no choice but to call the police and he will be taken away anyway. I don't understand why bio mom can't see it and now why my husband can't see it. Bio mom doesn't want to take him to the hospital because she claims she can't afford it but she makes six figures and has excellent insurance, so I am not buying that excuse. She was screaming at SS on the phone, SS was screaming back at her and husband, husband was having to practically yell to try and talk to either one of him and husband was really upset when we finally got off the phone with bio mom. He said maybe he should just take SS and get a place to live with him somewhere else so no one else will have to deal with him. I felt like someone kicked me in the stomach when he said that. :( I was speechless, hurt, and haven't slept all night. SS has already run his mom's husband off and they are divorced now. I am not about to lose my marriage because of SS. I don't know how I can get husband to realize that taking SS somewhere else to live and trying to parent him is not going to solve the problem because he is mentally ill and he is beyond what normal parenting can do. He needs to be in residential treatment or a therapeutic foster home and parented from a distance. I am feeling so lost and hurt this morning. After God, I put my husband first priority in my life. And after he said what he did to me last night, I don't feel like he is putting me first if he is willing to leave our home and live with SS somewhere else, which we cannot even afford. I pray to God he didn't mean what he said and just said it out of frustration at the situation. Midwest Mom, how can CPS help? I think the prosecutor did give that to bio mom as another option but of course she hasn't done that either. Someone please talk to me today because I am in tears this morning. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. [/QUOTE]
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