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<blockquote data-quote="Burndoubt" data-source="post: 278666" data-attributes="member: 7493"><p>Trying to answer questions & fill out a little more background info:</p><p>difficult child is my 13 year old stepson. He's informed everyone (multiple times) that he feels animals are more important than people. His baby sister was bitten by the dog (not bad, but lightly broke the skin) and he refused to even acknowledge she was hurt/scared. He rushed to the dog's defense from his angry father who immediately put her in her kennel for the night.</p><p>I have serious doubts that he would harm the dog. She sticks to him like glue. difficult child's got some weird stuff going on in his head about animals, but the cartoon type, not in real life. He's been caught 4x looking up porn (& has lost all internet access), two of these times, hanging out at a site for 'yiffing' (anthropomorphic cartoon animal porn). *crosses her eyes* NO idea where he got that one! Sick people out there!!</p><p>The fires, yes. That's a more recent phenomenon that he's been fascinated by playing with. This weekend we were 'strongly urged' by the fire marshall to go to send him to a 'firebug' class.</p><p>Hygenically, he's icky, but no more than the average early teenaged boy. It's a big fight half the time to get him to shower, brush his teeth, wash his face, etc.</p><p>Yes, I'm a stay at home mom, but with a 2 daughters aged 10 & 5. The 5 year old is the one he molested in October. She's forgotten it, mostly. The 10 year old remembers everything. I hurt for her the most, I think. She sees it all, and sees her adoptive father allowing her stepbrother (his son) to skate thru so much.. Right now, his punishment for setting the garage on fire? He's lost his tv & video game priviledges. But he's allowed by his dad to watch tv along with us in the living room. He <strong>fights </strong>to watch if his dad's not around & it's just the girls & me. I've got to take him with us everywhere now. </p><p>difficult child's counselor is interested in one thing, keeping difficult child safe & helping him, even at the expense of the rest of our family, which is making me livid. He's helped a lot, but at what cost?!? He told me that if I felt we weren't safe and that we had to move out, that was my choice. Smiling the whole time. I want to smack him with a whiffle ball bat, to finally get that da** blank smile off his face. It may help with the patient, but it's making me nuts.</p><p>There's no respite care available in our area. I'm looking into Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s available to us (on retired military insurance) in our area, but husband has been refusing to even discuss it. He's in complete denial.</p><p>I'm gonna have to tread lightly. Please keep us in your prayers/etc.</p><p>by the way, Thanks, Marge! I really liked the points you made, hoping they help me get mine across to husband.</p><p>Thank you all again so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Burndoubt, post: 278666, member: 7493"] Trying to answer questions & fill out a little more background info: difficult child is my 13 year old stepson. He's informed everyone (multiple times) that he feels animals are more important than people. His baby sister was bitten by the dog (not bad, but lightly broke the skin) and he refused to even acknowledge she was hurt/scared. He rushed to the dog's defense from his angry father who immediately put her in her kennel for the night. I have serious doubts that he would harm the dog. She sticks to him like glue. difficult child's got some weird stuff going on in his head about animals, but the cartoon type, not in real life. He's been caught 4x looking up porn (& has lost all internet access), two of these times, hanging out at a site for 'yiffing' (anthropomorphic cartoon animal porn). *crosses her eyes* NO idea where he got that one! Sick people out there!! The fires, yes. That's a more recent phenomenon that he's been fascinated by playing with. This weekend we were 'strongly urged' by the fire marshall to go to send him to a 'firebug' class. Hygenically, he's icky, but no more than the average early teenaged boy. It's a big fight half the time to get him to shower, brush his teeth, wash his face, etc. Yes, I'm a stay at home mom, but with a 2 daughters aged 10 & 5. The 5 year old is the one he molested in October. She's forgotten it, mostly. The 10 year old remembers everything. I hurt for her the most, I think. She sees it all, and sees her adoptive father allowing her stepbrother (his son) to skate thru so much.. Right now, his punishment for setting the garage on fire? He's lost his tv & video game priviledges. But he's allowed by his dad to watch tv along with us in the living room. He [B]fights [/B]to watch if his dad's not around & it's just the girls & me. I've got to take him with us everywhere now. difficult child's counselor is interested in one thing, keeping difficult child safe & helping him, even at the expense of the rest of our family, which is making me livid. He's helped a lot, but at what cost?!? He told me that if I felt we weren't safe and that we had to move out, that was my choice. Smiling the whole time. I want to smack him with a whiffle ball bat, to finally get that da** blank smile off his face. It may help with the patient, but it's making me nuts. There's no respite care available in our area. I'm looking into Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s available to us (on retired military insurance) in our area, but husband has been refusing to even discuss it. He's in complete denial. I'm gonna have to tread lightly. Please keep us in your prayers/etc. by the way, Thanks, Marge! I really liked the points you made, hoping they help me get mine across to husband. Thank you all again so much. [/QUOTE]
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