Well, I took easy child 1 & 2 out yesterday all day on a Girl Scout outing. I'd asked husband to keep an eye on difficult child while we were gone. Do stuff with him, spend some time with him. Don't leave him all alone for the day. husband & difficult child went out and did things together for a bit, then husband left that afternoon to go help out some friends move. That afternoon (yesterday), difficult child decided playing around with the candles (a HUGE no-no) in the house was boring, and decided to kick it up a notch by playing with the gas can we use to refill the lawnmower, a stick, and a lighter. Scared the crud out of himself. Thankfully, he's not hurt, and one of our neighbors is a fireman, who put out the flames before the fire trucks got here (which, difficult child had the presence of mind to call 911, thank heavens). *sighs* Our fridge/freezer is gone, our steam cleaner is gone, the miter saw is looking like it's past repairs, one garage door doesn't work, my cake decor kit is a bust, and the siding on the house in a couple spots needs to be replaced due to heat buckling. All in all, it could have been so much worse. I'm flipping about every 3 minutes between thanking G_d, crying, and being beyond furious. husband says there's nowhere to send difficult child. We're all he has. He can't 'give up' on him. I want difficult child to get the intensive help he NEEDS in order to function without hurting himself/others/property. It's pretty obvious to me (& everyone else but husband) that difficult child's not getting it at this point. His weekly counseling isn't enough. Where do you do with a child who needs help like this? Where do you go?