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<blockquote data-quote="Burndoubt" data-source="post: 278724" data-attributes="member: 7493"><p>Gotta explain the 'yiffing' thing, 'cuz I know, it's really weird.</p><p>Anthropomorphic= attributing human characteristics to non-human things.</p><p>Cartoons of animals ACTING like humans, engaging in sexual acts.</p><p>*frowns* Or so I've read. But no actual human/animal interactions, from what I'm to understand. Twisted & sick, but not actual beastiality. *shudders* I guess it's similar to a 'gateway drug' for porn. It lures kids in. </p><p>Wish 20/20 would catch the sickos that came up with THAT and put 'em up on primetime. </p><p> </p><p>Just had a really rough conversation with husband. He had absolutely NO intention of sending difficult child anywhere while he's gone for work (still hoping for a different job to come up before then). I was very clear with my intentions, but he heard what he wanted to hear.</p><p>I tried giving him the info on juvenile psychiatric hospitals in our area that take our insurance, but he absolutely put his foot down. Said that difficult child's 'accident' with setting the garage on fire was not a malicious act. If it was, that would be different, but in his mind, boys play with fire, and it's unfortunate, but not a cry for help. He gets REALLY mad when I bring up difficult child's drawings of himself standing in flames, with a knife to his throat, or dripping blood (drawings he did shortly after the fire of suicidal thoughts. difficult child said it's better that he draw them than do them). husband says he & difficult child discussed it, and that's pretty much that. The pictures are down now, replaced by Pokemon drawings. </p><p>husband finally conceded to me setting up a counseling meeting for us.</p><p>I feel my hand is being forced, and I hate that I feel like my mental health is of little concern to him. That whether he feels his son is a threat or not, his daughter and wife are SCARED of him. </p><p>I asked husband what he can do differently, what he can do with/for difficult child differently to make a difference. I need him to think about it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over, but expecting different results. I told him that I can do no more than I've done. I have to have help. If he expects us to stay, he has to make real changes. </p><p>I pointed out that _I_ am the one who makes difficult child's appointments, makes sure he takes his medications, takes him to his shrink, talks with his shrink, does EVERYTHING for this kid's health. Just going to work & making money isn't enough. It's a great help, no doubt, but he <strong><em>has</em></strong> to do more.</p><p>I am so scared I'll be given no choice but to live scared and sick, and further damage our children, or leave with our daughters. I'm exhausted from crying. Starting to feel like _I'm_ the one with the mental health issues here. Maybe my PTSD won't let me stop being scared, and I'm blowing this all out of proportion. difficult child didn't set the garage on fire with malice, just extremely poor judgement & idle hands. Things are getting all twisted around in my head.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Burndoubt, post: 278724, member: 7493"] Gotta explain the 'yiffing' thing, 'cuz I know, it's really weird. Anthropomorphic= attributing human characteristics to non-human things. Cartoons of animals ACTING like humans, engaging in sexual acts. *frowns* Or so I've read. But no actual human/animal interactions, from what I'm to understand. Twisted & sick, but not actual beastiality. *shudders* I guess it's similar to a 'gateway drug' for porn. It lures kids in. Wish 20/20 would catch the sickos that came up with THAT and put 'em up on primetime. Just had a really rough conversation with husband. He had absolutely NO intention of sending difficult child anywhere while he's gone for work (still hoping for a different job to come up before then). I was very clear with my intentions, but he heard what he wanted to hear. I tried giving him the info on juvenile psychiatric hospitals in our area that take our insurance, but he absolutely put his foot down. Said that difficult child's 'accident' with setting the garage on fire was not a malicious act. If it was, that would be different, but in his mind, boys play with fire, and it's unfortunate, but not a cry for help. He gets REALLY mad when I bring up difficult child's drawings of himself standing in flames, with a knife to his throat, or dripping blood (drawings he did shortly after the fire of suicidal thoughts. difficult child said it's better that he draw them than do them). husband says he & difficult child discussed it, and that's pretty much that. The pictures are down now, replaced by Pokemon drawings. husband finally conceded to me setting up a counseling meeting for us. I feel my hand is being forced, and I hate that I feel like my mental health is of little concern to him. That whether he feels his son is a threat or not, his daughter and wife are SCARED of him. I asked husband what he can do differently, what he can do with/for difficult child differently to make a difference. I need him to think about it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over, but expecting different results. I told him that I can do no more than I've done. I have to have help. If he expects us to stay, he has to make real changes. I pointed out that _I_ am the one who makes difficult child's appointments, makes sure he takes his medications, takes him to his shrink, talks with his shrink, does EVERYTHING for this kid's health. Just going to work & making money isn't enough. It's a great help, no doubt, but he [B][I]has[/I][/B] to do more. I am so scared I'll be given no choice but to live scared and sick, and further damage our children, or leave with our daughters. I'm exhausted from crying. Starting to feel like _I'm_ the one with the mental health issues here. Maybe my PTSD won't let me stop being scared, and I'm blowing this all out of proportion. difficult child didn't set the garage on fire with malice, just extremely poor judgement & idle hands. Things are getting all twisted around in my head. [/QUOTE]
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