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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 350479" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>We just got back from errands. So far difficult child is being pretty good the past few days. (PLEASE- no board jinx! LOL!) </p><p></p><p>The only therapist I've seen who was worth a lot worked for the military. Another I know of worked for the VA. I do agree there are some good ones, and other types of profs who work for the government. But I tend to think it's those that get into it for more personal reasons- Like when a warrior mom gets involved as a person helping kids or families- there is more to it than "just a job" and they also have a special insight that will never be conveyed in a textbook or by learning from someone else who's never been there done that. This "mentor" that showed up yesterday looked like he had never even been late to a class in school- much less break the law. difficult child talked openly with some staff at Department of Juvenile Justice who had backgrounds of delinquency, then going into the military or otherwise doing something to get their head on straight, then getting a job for Department of Juvenile Justice. Someone like that could do him a lot of good. I'm not so sure a preppy kid who just got his first job can- but I'll try not to exhibit that pessimism to difficult child or PO. I am going to tell PO that difficult child would listen to him better though- difficult child respects him and PO isn't preppy at all. He stuck by what he told me about backing me up to difficult child and I like the way he handled it and what he suggested when I talked to him about difficult child drinking that night, so I'm more open to working with him in a positive way now. I had forewarned him last year that I had a LOT of excess baggage and negativity that came from difficult child's last PO and not to take it personal, but I didn't have a lot of faith in them over there- and they need to quit blaming the judge- it was them in court services who were clueless. I think he's starting to see that I really wasn't making this stuff up just to try to bail my kid out or cover some big issue. Hopefully, he'll figure out what's going on (or should I say, what isn't going on) with this mentoring company as soon as he gets his first report from them.</p><p></p><p>Okee-doke- off to grill some chicken to eat with difficult child's infamous potato casserole and fresh asparagus with left-over fondue sprinkled over it. Yum! Then I'll check in before our family night movie tonight. I have to say- the family nights and devoting some time to just talking does seem to help. Of course, when a kid has it in his/her head that he/she doesn't want to make any effort and doesn't care about any rule, nothing helps except suffering the consequences.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 350479, member: 3699"] We just got back from errands. So far difficult child is being pretty good the past few days. (PLEASE- no board jinx! LOL!) The only therapist I've seen who was worth a lot worked for the military. Another I know of worked for the VA. I do agree there are some good ones, and other types of profs who work for the government. But I tend to think it's those that get into it for more personal reasons- Like when a warrior mom gets involved as a person helping kids or families- there is more to it than "just a job" and they also have a special insight that will never be conveyed in a textbook or by learning from someone else who's never been there done that. This "mentor" that showed up yesterday looked like he had never even been late to a class in school- much less break the law. difficult child talked openly with some staff at Department of Juvenile Justice who had backgrounds of delinquency, then going into the military or otherwise doing something to get their head on straight, then getting a job for Department of Juvenile Justice. Someone like that could do him a lot of good. I'm not so sure a preppy kid who just got his first job can- but I'll try not to exhibit that pessimism to difficult child or PO. I am going to tell PO that difficult child would listen to him better though- difficult child respects him and PO isn't preppy at all. He stuck by what he told me about backing me up to difficult child and I like the way he handled it and what he suggested when I talked to him about difficult child drinking that night, so I'm more open to working with him in a positive way now. I had forewarned him last year that I had a LOT of excess baggage and negativity that came from difficult child's last PO and not to take it personal, but I didn't have a lot of faith in them over there- and they need to quit blaming the judge- it was them in court services who were clueless. I think he's starting to see that I really wasn't making this stuff up just to try to bail my kid out or cover some big issue. Hopefully, he'll figure out what's going on (or should I say, what isn't going on) with this mentoring company as soon as he gets his first report from them. Okee-doke- off to grill some chicken to eat with difficult child's infamous potato casserole and fresh asparagus with left-over fondue sprinkled over it. Yum! Then I'll check in before our family night movie tonight. I have to say- the family nights and devoting some time to just talking does seem to help. Of course, when a kid has it in his/her head that he/she doesn't want to make any effort and doesn't care about any rule, nothing helps except suffering the consequences. [/QUOTE]
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