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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 165055" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I didn't mean to suggest that you should give either boy away. I was pointing out what I know to be true in these cases. I know it to be true because I spent 4 years working with the District Attorney's office with sexual assault cases. Regardless of who you have spoken to and who you have asked for help and what they have advised to do - or not to do - should it at any time come to the attention of a mandated reporter that you were aware that there was sexual abuse happening in the home and it continued to happen, one or both of the boys will not be taken at the very least for intense evaluation, if not placement.</p><p></p><p>I fully understand that you can not watch them 24 hours a day, and that it is not fair to the boys that anyone should be abandoned. I am just telling you what will likely happen. It's the reality of keeping the older boy. It's a "Solomon's Decision". No one can make that kind of decision for you.</p><p></p><p>All I can say is that if it were me in your position, I'd play that card hard and fast. "He's molesting my younger son and it has to stop. You either give us services or come and get him." If CPS knows you aren't going to give him up no matter what, they have no reason to spend any money on treating him. And when the time comes that he has gone too far, they will point the finger at you.</p><p></p><p>Rattle their cage, ring their bell, light a fire in their pants. But don't ever let them point the finger at you. All of you will lose if they do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 165055, member: 99"] I didn't mean to suggest that you should give either boy away. I was pointing out what I know to be true in these cases. I know it to be true because I spent 4 years working with the District Attorney's office with sexual assault cases. Regardless of who you have spoken to and who you have asked for help and what they have advised to do - or not to do - should it at any time come to the attention of a mandated reporter that you were aware that there was sexual abuse happening in the home and it continued to happen, one or both of the boys will not be taken at the very least for intense evaluation, if not placement. I fully understand that you can not watch them 24 hours a day, and that it is not fair to the boys that anyone should be abandoned. I am just telling you what will likely happen. It's the reality of keeping the older boy. It's a "Solomon's Decision". No one can make that kind of decision for you. All I can say is that if it were me in your position, I'd play that card hard and fast. "He's molesting my younger son and it has to stop. You either give us services or come and get him." If CPS knows you aren't going to give him up no matter what, they have no reason to spend any money on treating him. And when the time comes that he has gone too far, they will point the finger at you. Rattle their cage, ring their bell, light a fire in their pants. But don't ever let them point the finger at you. All of you will lose if they do. [/QUOTE]
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