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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 165078" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree with the above poster. Once it comes to light, the older one will not be able to stay in your home. In fact, they may decide you didn't protect the younger ones and take them all. I've been in this situation and sometimes you DO have to choose. I chose the kids who were victimized. And, yes, I loved the child who perped on the younger ones, but he couldn't stay with us.</p><p>If you are committed to the boys all staying together, I have some suggestions that we were told we could do. You can get a videocamera and put it in the boy's room and an alarm that goes off if he leaves his room at night. That way he'll know you are always watching him. If he needs to go to the bathroom at night, at least you're awake to supervise. Never ever ever let them out of your sight. You CAN and NEED TO watch them all the time. And you need to watch him with other kids as well because if he molests Joe Neighbor, then you are REALLY in trouble. YOU are. Regardless of his background, and the good you are trying to do, it can blow up in your face. We knew we couldn't always watch the boy so we sent him away. But he was older (13) and quite dangerous on many levels.</p><p>I wish you luck, whatever you ultimately decide to do. This is about the worst thing that can happen to a parent and you have my heartfelt sympathy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 165078, member: 1550"] I agree with the above poster. Once it comes to light, the older one will not be able to stay in your home. In fact, they may decide you didn't protect the younger ones and take them all. I've been in this situation and sometimes you DO have to choose. I chose the kids who were victimized. And, yes, I loved the child who perped on the younger ones, but he couldn't stay with us. If you are committed to the boys all staying together, I have some suggestions that we were told we could do. You can get a videocamera and put it in the boy's room and an alarm that goes off if he leaves his room at night. That way he'll know you are always watching him. If he needs to go to the bathroom at night, at least you're awake to supervise. Never ever ever let them out of your sight. You CAN and NEED TO watch them all the time. And you need to watch him with other kids as well because if he molests Joe Neighbor, then you are REALLY in trouble. YOU are. Regardless of his background, and the good you are trying to do, it can blow up in your face. We knew we couldn't always watch the boy so we sent him away. But he was older (13) and quite dangerous on many levels. I wish you luck, whatever you ultimately decide to do. This is about the worst thing that can happen to a parent and you have my heartfelt sympathy. [/QUOTE]
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