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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 165137" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Night4now,</p><p></p><p>While it wasn't sexual abuse at our house, I did have to separate Kanga from the others because she was horribly verbally abusive and had tried to kill the others. Here are some practical things we did to make our house safer:</p><p></p><p>1. <strong>Coded locks on all bedrooms and on 1 main level room.</strong> This will allow the 13 & 4 year old to get into a "safe room", yet not allow them to lock you out by hiding the key. </p><p></p><p>2. <strong> Have 4-year old sleep in your room. </strong>. Assuming that the 7-year old doesn't target the 13-year old, move a toddler bed into your room and have the 4-year old sleep with you (have a coded lock on your door as well). </p><p></p><p>3. <strong> Replace interior doors with solid wood doors </strong> These aren't as easy to break through.</p><p></p><p>4. <strong> Hire a mommy's helper </strong> This would give you an extra set of hands to ensure that the 7-year old is under eyes-on supervision at all times. </p><p></p><p>5. <strong> Have special days </strong> If husband and you each take a turn taking each boy out for a special day, it will separate the boys without punishing them.</p><p></p><p>6. <strong> Explore Special Recreation options. </strong> You have to inform them, in writing, that he is sexually reactive and needs 1:1 supervision but it could give you a daytime supervised place and the others could go to regular daycamp.</p><p></p><p>Another idea, that we didn't use because we could never convince the boys to call for help until she actually attacked, is a personal alarm that the 4-year old could push if the 7-year old gets him alone. </p><p></p><p>We couldn't afford the really high quality ones and she broke the cheap ones we tried, but you can get an alarm that will sound whenever a door is opened inside your house so you can keep track of his movements.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry that you have to suffer like this. Have you tried Utah State Hospital? They take children as young as 6. I know nothing of them other than that they popped up in a web search I just did. Sometimes going to a psychiatric hospital for an emergency intake evaluation is faster than convincing others that it is a crisis. </p><p></p><p>(((Hugs))),</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 165137, member: 1169"] Night4now, While it wasn't sexual abuse at our house, I did have to separate Kanga from the others because she was horribly verbally abusive and had tried to kill the others. Here are some practical things we did to make our house safer: 1. [B]Coded locks on all bedrooms and on 1 main level room.[/B] This will allow the 13 & 4 year old to get into a "safe room", yet not allow them to lock you out by hiding the key. 2. [B] Have 4-year old sleep in your room. [/B]. Assuming that the 7-year old doesn't target the 13-year old, move a toddler bed into your room and have the 4-year old sleep with you (have a coded lock on your door as well). 3. [B] Replace interior doors with solid wood doors [/B] These aren't as easy to break through. 4. [B] Hire a mommy's helper [/B] This would give you an extra set of hands to ensure that the 7-year old is under eyes-on supervision at all times. 5. [B] Have special days [/B] If husband and you each take a turn taking each boy out for a special day, it will separate the boys without punishing them. 6. [B] Explore Special Recreation options. [/B] You have to inform them, in writing, that he is sexually reactive and needs 1:1 supervision but it could give you a daytime supervised place and the others could go to regular daycamp. Another idea, that we didn't use because we could never convince the boys to call for help until she actually attacked, is a personal alarm that the 4-year old could push if the 7-year old gets him alone. We couldn't afford the really high quality ones and she broke the cheap ones we tried, but you can get an alarm that will sound whenever a door is opened inside your house so you can keep track of his movements. I'm sorry that you have to suffer like this. Have you tried Utah State Hospital? They take children as young as 6. I know nothing of them other than that they popped up in a web search I just did. Sometimes going to a psychiatric hospital for an emergency intake evaluation is faster than convincing others that it is a crisis. (((Hugs))), [/QUOTE]
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