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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 139796" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Janet, I lived with a husband with that kind of irrational, escalating rage for twenty years and I know very well the toll it takes on you. I am so very sorry you have to go through this, especially with everything else you have going on. But you absolutely cannot allow him to put his hands on you in anger ... that's the deal breaker right there. Give it a few days, steer clear of each other, let things calm down a little and then maybe you can talk. </p><p> </p><p>Did he react this way before he had his stroke? If he has uncontrolled high blood pressure, that can cause that kind of behavior too. Is he upset at all that Cory will be going to jail for a while? Men have really funny ways of showing things sometimes. Whenever my ex had treated our son badly or had done something to him that he should feel guilty about, he'd pick a fight with him! He wasn't subtle about it either! He replaced all the other feelings he had with anger because that was the only way he was comfortable expressing it. He had only one emotion - ANGER! Didn't make sense to me either. Still doesn't. But it's hard to feel guilty about someone you have treated badly if you're MAD at them.</p><p> </p><p>Sending lots of gentle hugs and keeping all body parts crossed that things get better for you soon ... it's about time!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 139796, member: 1883"] Janet, I lived with a husband with that kind of irrational, escalating rage for twenty years and I know very well the toll it takes on you. I am so very sorry you have to go through this, especially with everything else you have going on. But you absolutely cannot allow him to put his hands on you in anger ... that's the deal breaker right there. Give it a few days, steer clear of each other, let things calm down a little and then maybe you can talk. Did he react this way before he had his stroke? If he has uncontrolled high blood pressure, that can cause that kind of behavior too. Is he upset at all that Cory will be going to jail for a while? Men have really funny ways of showing things sometimes. Whenever my ex had treated our son badly or had done something to him that he should feel guilty about, he'd pick a fight with him! He wasn't subtle about it either! He replaced all the other feelings he had with anger because that was the only way he was comfortable expressing it. He had only one emotion - ANGER! Didn't make sense to me either. Still doesn't. But it's hard to feel guilty about someone you have treated badly if you're MAD at them. Sending lots of gentle hugs and keeping all body parts crossed that things get better for you soon ... it's about time! [/QUOTE]
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