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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 681993" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Oh Lil, just catching up with this. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I so understand your reaction. It's almost worse when they actually start doing better (the ONE and ONLY thing we have prayed and prayed and prayed for...be careful what you wish for) and then they take a step back. </p><p></p><p>I would go beserk when Difficult Child had a setback. I couldn't handle it. It was all about me and my ability to deal with it all, which had been shaved away, inch by inch, over the hard painful years. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>He has been doing so much better. He has. Don't lose sight of that. This is what progress looks like. I have had to learn that. One step forward, then another...then maybe two back or one back. It's not a linear progression. But it is STILL progress. What you have hoped and prayed for. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Of course. We---he and you---can only deal with so much at any given point in time...and then, when we are on overload, we go BACK to our old behaviors. That is in our DNA. We don't go with our new learning...just back...but hopefully temporarily. He retreated, you let him have it...now...let's hope and pray...another series of steps forward.</p><p></p><p>I do believe having these people freeloading on him will turn out to be very very instructive for his forward progress. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 681993, member: 17542"] Oh Lil, just catching up with this. I so understand your reaction. It's almost worse when they actually start doing better (the ONE and ONLY thing we have prayed and prayed and prayed for...be careful what you wish for) and then they take a step back. I would go beserk when Difficult Child had a setback. I couldn't handle it. It was all about me and my ability to deal with it all, which had been shaved away, inch by inch, over the hard painful years. He has been doing so much better. He has. Don't lose sight of that. This is what progress looks like. I have had to learn that. One step forward, then another...then maybe two back or one back. It's not a linear progression. But it is STILL progress. What you have hoped and prayed for. Of course. We---he and you---can only deal with so much at any given point in time...and then, when we are on overload, we go BACK to our old behaviors. That is in our DNA. We don't go with our new learning...just back...but hopefully temporarily. He retreated, you let him have it...now...let's hope and pray...another series of steps forward. I do believe having these people freeloading on him will turn out to be very very instructive for his forward progress. Hang in there! [/QUOTE]
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