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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 390835" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Don't feel bad for the nights you are not at home. Consider them as respite, and also an opportunity for husband to be the focus and have to handle it. In the past, husband has not backed u=you up enough. Time now for him to also step up, as he seemed to do this time. Good for him!</p><p></p><p>The calm on returning - that happens here too. Although difficult child 3 will be on a much shorter fuse after a blow-up like that.</p><p></p><p>The depersonalisation you describe - it sounds a bit like was described in "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" and we have also seen this; when these kids get really angry, a switch in their memory fails to turn on properly, and especially if they have any level of ADD, they simply fail to properly lay down memory when raging. It can be scary when this happens, but we see the same sort of raging in a toddler. And really, when it comes to impulse control and self-control, when these kids snap they revert to 2 years old. That's why the raging and the damage as they get bigger, can be such a worry.</p><p></p><p>That practice nurse sounds like she works by numbers. Not really paying attention to the issues at hand. I would be calling back, saying, "I know you are really busy, I am too so I grabbed a spare moment to call and ask what the doctor said."</p><p></p><p>Which reminds me... I have to call easy child 2/difficult child 2's doctor for her.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 390835, member: 1991"] Don't feel bad for the nights you are not at home. Consider them as respite, and also an opportunity for husband to be the focus and have to handle it. In the past, husband has not backed u=you up enough. Time now for him to also step up, as he seemed to do this time. Good for him! The calm on returning - that happens here too. Although difficult child 3 will be on a much shorter fuse after a blow-up like that. The depersonalisation you describe - it sounds a bit like was described in "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" and we have also seen this; when these kids get really angry, a switch in their memory fails to turn on properly, and especially if they have any level of ADD, they simply fail to properly lay down memory when raging. It can be scary when this happens, but we see the same sort of raging in a toddler. And really, when it comes to impulse control and self-control, when these kids snap they revert to 2 years old. That's why the raging and the damage as they get bigger, can be such a worry. That practice nurse sounds like she works by numbers. Not really paying attention to the issues at hand. I would be calling back, saying, "I know you are really busy, I am too so I grabbed a spare moment to call and ask what the doctor said." Which reminds me... I have to call easy child 2/difficult child 2's doctor for her. Marg [/QUOTE]
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