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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 399005" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The problem with identity theft, as we found, is that you can be worse off than no money. We had new credit cards arrive (replacement ones but the account was in the black) and when they arrived, someone else had maxed them out. We never did find out what happened, but it took some detective work on husband's part to prove it wasn't us.</p><p></p><p>We went from just managing month by month, to having huge debts, all because someone stole our credit.</p><p></p><p>As for finding you - the cops only have a hard time if they don't really put in effort. They have a lot to do and not a lot of time to do it in. But a determines stalker - they can do a lot of damage.</p><p></p><p>I also try to not put anything here that I would not be OK with having a wider circulation, but the problems for me are that the people who know me can sometimes choose to misunderstand what I have written. A local teacher who used to track down anything I had written, would print it off and take it to the school and share it around. Even an article I wrote praising the school and a new program there, managed to get twisted by this teacher into something sinister.</p><p></p><p>A letter I wrote to difficult child 1's old principal, complaining about the deputy (who thankfully I did not name) was opened by that deputy, in front of me. That deputy then took my letter and showed it to other staff while saying, "You were helping this woman's son - see how she has repaid you." I had teachers whose help I had valued, start to attack me because they felt I had been unfair to them in my letter. Luckily I had brought my own copy which I then produced and said, "Show me where I have been unfair to you."</p><p>But not all 'readers' will have the strength of character to confront you. There were others who never bothered to seek me out to clarify things.</p><p></p><p>People twist things, sometimes without meaning to. How often have you read a thread of yours, and seen someone write something that has upset you? You post that you're upset, and then clarification indicates that you had no reason to get upset; you had misread the post. Not you personally, I mean any of us. It's because we often don't read as carefully as we should and especially if we're worried or upset about our child, we don't pay as close attention as we should. Misunderstandings happen with all of us.</p><p></p><p>So go carefully.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 399005, member: 1991"] The problem with identity theft, as we found, is that you can be worse off than no money. We had new credit cards arrive (replacement ones but the account was in the black) and when they arrived, someone else had maxed them out. We never did find out what happened, but it took some detective work on husband's part to prove it wasn't us. We went from just managing month by month, to having huge debts, all because someone stole our credit. As for finding you - the cops only have a hard time if they don't really put in effort. They have a lot to do and not a lot of time to do it in. But a determines stalker - they can do a lot of damage. I also try to not put anything here that I would not be OK with having a wider circulation, but the problems for me are that the people who know me can sometimes choose to misunderstand what I have written. A local teacher who used to track down anything I had written, would print it off and take it to the school and share it around. Even an article I wrote praising the school and a new program there, managed to get twisted by this teacher into something sinister. A letter I wrote to difficult child 1's old principal, complaining about the deputy (who thankfully I did not name) was opened by that deputy, in front of me. That deputy then took my letter and showed it to other staff while saying, "You were helping this woman's son - see how she has repaid you." I had teachers whose help I had valued, start to attack me because they felt I had been unfair to them in my letter. Luckily I had brought my own copy which I then produced and said, "Show me where I have been unfair to you." But not all 'readers' will have the strength of character to confront you. There were others who never bothered to seek me out to clarify things. People twist things, sometimes without meaning to. How often have you read a thread of yours, and seen someone write something that has upset you? You post that you're upset, and then clarification indicates that you had no reason to get upset; you had misread the post. Not you personally, I mean any of us. It's because we often don't read as carefully as we should and especially if we're worried or upset about our child, we don't pay as close attention as we should. Misunderstandings happen with all of us. So go carefully. Marg [/QUOTE]
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