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<blockquote data-quote="standswithcourage" data-source="post: 109216" data-attributes="member: 3948"><p>I understand completely also. My son said and did the same exact thing. You can be strong. Just continue to tell hiim you love him - support him in getting better but dont enable him. You have to be there for him but also let him know his behavior has got to change - you can take care of yourself also and feel good about the fact that he is not on the street or dead. My son is in jail right now. It is horrible. But I know that he caused it not me. It is better than being dead and with life there is hope. The hardest thing for me is missing him and not feeling sorry for him. I am a teacher and just got off for winter break - I catch myself sitting thinking abaout what to do for him and then I stop and pray. Also I send him letters and will go to see him on Christmas Eve. That is hard but we learn what they need and they need love but not smothering love. My son has been in jail since Oct. I havea been to see him once my husband and been none. Everytime before when he was locked up I went every week - even though it almost made me sick to go - I went out of pure guilt but this time it has been harder for me to go because he continued to go the wrong way with us constantly telling him not to. He is 24 and this has been going on for 7 years. He has been to rehab and many other places for help. We will be here for you to help you be strong. I would not send him a phone card either. My son cannot call. We have cell phones. It has been so much better. He writes more and thinks more about his choices. With phone calls it is a lot easier for them to manipulate us. Hang in there. :xmasdec:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="standswithcourage, post: 109216, member: 3948"] I understand completely also. My son said and did the same exact thing. You can be strong. Just continue to tell hiim you love him - support him in getting better but dont enable him. You have to be there for him but also let him know his behavior has got to change - you can take care of yourself also and feel good about the fact that he is not on the street or dead. My son is in jail right now. It is horrible. But I know that he caused it not me. It is better than being dead and with life there is hope. The hardest thing for me is missing him and not feeling sorry for him. I am a teacher and just got off for winter break - I catch myself sitting thinking abaout what to do for him and then I stop and pray. Also I send him letters and will go to see him on Christmas Eve. That is hard but we learn what they need and they need love but not smothering love. My son has been in jail since Oct. I havea been to see him once my husband and been none. Everytime before when he was locked up I went every week - even though it almost made me sick to go - I went out of pure guilt but this time it has been harder for me to go because he continued to go the wrong way with us constantly telling him not to. He is 24 and this has been going on for 7 years. He has been to rehab and many other places for help. We will be here for you to help you be strong. I would not send him a phone card either. My son cannot call. We have cell phones. It has been so much better. He writes more and thinks more about his choices. With phone calls it is a lot easier for them to manipulate us. Hang in there. [img]:xmasdec:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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