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<blockquote data-quote="jmama45" data-source="post: 109358" data-attributes="member: 4450"><p>Well we didnt hear from him from Tues till today. I was glad he couldn't make calls. girlfriend got a call and then I got one later on. To girlfriend he admited his use and she told him he can't be with her son, her and the baby doing drugs. He said he isn't going a day without them and he will drug test every day if he has too. He told her he was never straight since they met (1 1/2 yrs) and she doesn't even know him. That hurt her, but it is the truth. He admitted to being messed up for 6 years (since he left my home.) He told her when he got there he thought "wow, she hooked me up, now I can have more contacts" and then after a couple days, he decided OMG I do not want to be like this, I want to change my life. </p><p></p><p>With my call, we talked about the place, he said they make it sound to family like it isn't a jail, but he said it is. He said he lays in bed and has anxiety can cant sleep. He said it is dirty there, it smells bad the food is bad and it is a jail. He said he looks around and doesn't want to be there EVER again and be on drugs and he is going to change his life. He said it is his own fault he is there and that he deserves to be there, if not 30 days, longer! He said he knows he is there because he is loved. He knows he has a million family members that care about him. He said he will go into a program when he gets out. He got the card and pictures and stares at the baby. He sounded different than 3 days ago, more like the son he was before the past 6 years. He knows his next step is real jail and admitted he knew people the the real jail and said he isn't proud of it and they are not people he wants to know.</p><p></p><p>He said he wrote girlfriend 3 letters and his thoughts are jumbled so he isn't sending them. He was hoping to write me tonight. He had a paycheck with him so he has money and can use the phone.</p><p></p><p>My son hasn't talked to me much in 6 years, I mean I saw him maybe 7 times a year, he called but was never more than hey and light talk. He said more today than he has in years!! Is he waking up? He is admitting and looking for change. I guess I wont know until he takes action. But all along his choice of how to deal with his ways has been avoidance, now he is talking and to me that is a chnage all in it self. He definatly was not talking like he did the other day, it was like a whole different kid. He said he isn't befriending people in there, he has no need to know them.</p><p></p><p>He said he never got sick and all that. He said most people detox for days before they go into a "unit" and that he was in his unit on day 2. They are not giving him any medications either. He has nothing in his system.</p><p></p><p>So I wonder, how can I tell if he is telling me what I want to hear? He does know he can't put me on, that I know him too well. He never was big on playing me, he just stayed away. He didn't ask me for money or any help in 6 years, he jsut never involved me.</p><p></p><p>He said he is just thinking and thinking and going crazy knowing he will miss xmas, new years and the girlfriend's sons birthday. He said it kills him that the girlfriend's son is asking for him. He got a note from girlfriend's son and he drew a picture of them playing together, he said it killed him. </p><p></p><p>So he is feeling something again. I dont think he felt an emotion that strong in years. I so hope this works for him. The wake up call he needed.</p><p></p><p>p.s. no visitors allowed for the whole 30 days. I sooo agree with that. I don't plan on helping him be comfy there. NO WAY! girlfriend and I agreed no more baby pics, let him suffer when he sees how much she changed in 30 days! He will be so sad when he sees her! I have a feeling I will be hearing from him more than I have in 6 years! I don't think thats bad since talking to me again is a new behavior for him, opening up is new, I think it is only going to help him. I am not oh poor you, I just let him do the talking and support the good choices he talks about. Make sense?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jmama45, post: 109358, member: 4450"] Well we didnt hear from him from Tues till today. I was glad he couldn't make calls. girlfriend got a call and then I got one later on. To girlfriend he admited his use and she told him he can't be with her son, her and the baby doing drugs. He said he isn't going a day without them and he will drug test every day if he has too. He told her he was never straight since they met (1 1/2 yrs) and she doesn't even know him. That hurt her, but it is the truth. He admitted to being messed up for 6 years (since he left my home.) He told her when he got there he thought "wow, she hooked me up, now I can have more contacts" and then after a couple days, he decided OMG I do not want to be like this, I want to change my life. With my call, we talked about the place, he said they make it sound to family like it isn't a jail, but he said it is. He said he lays in bed and has anxiety can cant sleep. He said it is dirty there, it smells bad the food is bad and it is a jail. He said he looks around and doesn't want to be there EVER again and be on drugs and he is going to change his life. He said it is his own fault he is there and that he deserves to be there, if not 30 days, longer! He said he knows he is there because he is loved. He knows he has a million family members that care about him. He said he will go into a program when he gets out. He got the card and pictures and stares at the baby. He sounded different than 3 days ago, more like the son he was before the past 6 years. He knows his next step is real jail and admitted he knew people the the real jail and said he isn't proud of it and they are not people he wants to know. He said he wrote girlfriend 3 letters and his thoughts are jumbled so he isn't sending them. He was hoping to write me tonight. He had a paycheck with him so he has money and can use the phone. My son hasn't talked to me much in 6 years, I mean I saw him maybe 7 times a year, he called but was never more than hey and light talk. He said more today than he has in years!! Is he waking up? He is admitting and looking for change. I guess I wont know until he takes action. But all along his choice of how to deal with his ways has been avoidance, now he is talking and to me that is a chnage all in it self. He definatly was not talking like he did the other day, it was like a whole different kid. He said he isn't befriending people in there, he has no need to know them. He said he never got sick and all that. He said most people detox for days before they go into a "unit" and that he was in his unit on day 2. They are not giving him any medications either. He has nothing in his system. So I wonder, how can I tell if he is telling me what I want to hear? He does know he can't put me on, that I know him too well. He never was big on playing me, he just stayed away. He didn't ask me for money or any help in 6 years, he jsut never involved me. He said he is just thinking and thinking and going crazy knowing he will miss xmas, new years and the girlfriend's sons birthday. He said it kills him that the girlfriend's son is asking for him. He got a note from girlfriend's son and he drew a picture of them playing together, he said it killed him. So he is feeling something again. I dont think he felt an emotion that strong in years. I so hope this works for him. The wake up call he needed. p.s. no visitors allowed for the whole 30 days. I sooo agree with that. I don't plan on helping him be comfy there. NO WAY! girlfriend and I agreed no more baby pics, let him suffer when he sees how much she changed in 30 days! He will be so sad when he sees her! I have a feeling I will be hearing from him more than I have in 6 years! I don't think thats bad since talking to me again is a new behavior for him, opening up is new, I think it is only going to help him. I am not oh poor you, I just let him do the talking and support the good choices he talks about. Make sense? [/QUOTE]
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