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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 109521" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Originally Posted By: saving grace</p><p>For right now take it Day by Day, dont put too much hope into what he says, just keep telling him that you love him and will support him if he is doing the right thing. Do not enable him, do not change what you say and feel based on anything he is saying right now. It will only set you up for disappointment.</p><p>His actions when he gets out will show you if you can trust him.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Addicts almost always have the right words They just don't have the right actions. Make your judgements by observing his actions not by listening to his words.</p><p></p><p>Listen to the other mothers here who have been through this. From my own experiences with the addicts in my life and observation of others experiences here on the board, I can tell you that it is rare that an addict will "get it" the first time in recovery.</p><p></p><p>The change in them when they are truly recovered is very observable. There is an inner peace that radiates from them like a huge weight is lifted from their sholders. I have seen this over and over when I volunteered for a mission that rehabilitates addicts. </p><p></p><p>Another point is that as long as your son is making comparisons between himself and others in the program you can know for certain he isn't at the crossroad of change yet. Addiction is not a matter of relativity, it is an absolute.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 109521, member: 2315"] Originally Posted By: saving grace For right now take it Day by Day, dont put too much hope into what he says, just keep telling him that you love him and will support him if he is doing the right thing. Do not enable him, do not change what you say and feel based on anything he is saying right now. It will only set you up for disappointment. His actions when he gets out will show you if you can trust him. Addicts almost always have the right words They just don't have the right actions. Make your judgements by observing his actions not by listening to his words. Listen to the other mothers here who have been through this. From my own experiences with the addicts in my life and observation of others experiences here on the board, I can tell you that it is rare that an addict will "get it" the first time in recovery. The change in them when they are truly recovered is very observable. There is an inner peace that radiates from them like a huge weight is lifted from their sholders. I have seen this over and over when I volunteered for a mission that rehabilitates addicts. Another point is that as long as your son is making comparisons between himself and others in the program you can know for certain he isn't at the crossroad of change yet. Addiction is not a matter of relativity, it is an absolute. [/QUOTE]
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