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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 78781" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>MWM, you said, "I was told my demeanor is too friendly for Aspergers"</p><p></p><p>The pediatrician has told easy child 2/difficult child 2 that in his opinion she doesn't have Asperger's because she makes good eye contact. She says, "I make good eye contact NOW because I have learned to. But I still don't like to do it especially with people I don't know."</p><p></p><p>MWM, you have learned a great deal in your life so far. A lot of what Aspies learn is adaptation. After a certain age trying to assess on current presentation is almost impossible, because the diagnostician has to examine the person as they are now, you can't go back in time and assess. Whatever you can find of a person's history can help, but a lot of older Aspies are very good at masking it. This doesn't mean the disability is now gone, it just means that have learned to hide it well.</p><p></p><p>husband has a dry sense of humour. He is fast with a quip and very effective. However, he learnt some years ago that he has to SMILE when he makes a joke, because his natural delivery is so deadpan people found it hard to recognise that something he said was intended as humour. They would take his remarks seriously and this led to all sorts of confusion and misunderstanding.</p><p>husband's joking smile is still very subtle but it works for him. This is learned behaviour. He actively made a decision to modify his behaviour once it was pointed out to him that people were misunderstanding.</p><p></p><p>And as for being friendly - difficult child 3 has always been friendly. He's very outgoing. He's often inappropriate with it (hence the diagnosis) but he IS learning to adapt and be less inappropriate. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) people ARE capable of learning - I do wish some diagnosticians would get this through their thick skulls.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 78781, member: 1991"] MWM, you said, "I was told my demeanor is too friendly for Aspergers" The pediatrician has told easy child 2/difficult child 2 that in his opinion she doesn't have Asperger's because she makes good eye contact. She says, "I make good eye contact NOW because I have learned to. But I still don't like to do it especially with people I don't know." MWM, you have learned a great deal in your life so far. A lot of what Aspies learn is adaptation. After a certain age trying to assess on current presentation is almost impossible, because the diagnostician has to examine the person as they are now, you can't go back in time and assess. Whatever you can find of a person's history can help, but a lot of older Aspies are very good at masking it. This doesn't mean the disability is now gone, it just means that have learned to hide it well. husband has a dry sense of humour. He is fast with a quip and very effective. However, he learnt some years ago that he has to SMILE when he makes a joke, because his natural delivery is so deadpan people found it hard to recognise that something he said was intended as humour. They would take his remarks seriously and this led to all sorts of confusion and misunderstanding. husband's joking smile is still very subtle but it works for him. This is learned behaviour. He actively made a decision to modify his behaviour once it was pointed out to him that people were misunderstanding. And as for being friendly - difficult child 3 has always been friendly. He's very outgoing. He's often inappropriate with it (hence the diagnosis) but he IS learning to adapt and be less inappropriate. Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) people ARE capable of learning - I do wish some diagnosticians would get this through their thick skulls. Marg [/QUOTE]
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