husband is grumpy. The doctor put him on prednisone on Friday plus gave him a shot of steroids. Plus he had a steroid shot a week before that. So yesterday he took 5 of the tablets, today is 4, tomorrow 3 and so on until they are gone. I expected this to happen and we warned the kids. He just informed me that he "cannot" be sick anymore, he refuses to be because we will have no clean dishes ever again if he isn't well enough to do it. We have decided FIVE times in the last two months that we are going to have the children clean the kitchen. They need reminders and supervision. I can only do so much, esp today while fighting a nasty migraine that is not responding to imitrex. I beat it back but not gone and have been fighting it for four days. I told him flat out that NO he is NOT going to do the dishes. He is going to go out and tell the kids that THEY are cleaning the kitchen. To tell them that they have until 2 or whenever time he picks and they will have every dish clean. Period. These are pcs. Yes, if you don't make an issue of it they are not going to do it. They have to be told. husband won't outright refuse to tell them to do chores, but he sure does all he can to not tell them. He may ASK if they WANT to do a chore but if they say no he says oh. okay. Like it is okay. Then he does it and gritches about it. I am sick to death of it. It has been a HUGE problem in our marriage because he is like this with every single chore. He thinks they should see that it needs to be done and just do it. This is the same man who will NOT wipe off a counter or table even if it has a solid coating of yuck stuck onto it. He will walk over a piece of paper on the floor, taking care to not step on it, but will NOT pick it up, no matter what. So how should the kids see what HE doesn't see??? Talk about shock. He expected me to do the "oh you are sick, poor baby, I will take care of it." **** or else to do a handful of dishes and gripe all day and all the next MONTH about how when he was so sick he still HAD to do all the work. Not getting that, getting scolded and told that he WILL step up and be a parent and assign chores to the kids was a shock. His jaw fell open and he just looked at me. If I find out he did those dishes, his head is going to spin - cause I am SICK of this passive aggressive koi. If you don't want to do it, make the kids. If you don't want to make them do it, do it yourself and don't act like a martyr!! As Dolly Parton's character said in the movie "Straight Talk", "Get down off the cross, honey. Somebody needs the wood!" Do your husbands refuse to ever tell the kids to do any chores unless you specifically tell them to? Why?? What on EARTH makes this man so reluctant to assign chores to pcs?