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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 430716" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>You described my husband so concisely! The twist for us was that when I got on him to step up and be a parent, he would push it back to me saying it was my job and his job was to bring home the paycheck. I wasn't even asking him to parent by himself, just actively back me up and repeat what I said, or even just remind ME what needed to be done. Yeah, giving his wife gentle reminders was too much work.</p><p></p><p>The other twist is that I am a chronically disorganized hoarder, and have struggled with housework all my life. I fit the behavior, but not the thought process. I know kids learn better by example and am "trying harder" to fix my issues so I can do a better job of teaching them. (Seriously not a "lazy" thing since I'll spend hours with yardwork, have worked up to 3 jobs at a time, as a waitress, I kept things immaculate to the point my coworkers thought my house should look like a spotless museum, etc I just can't seem to get into a real housekeeping routine) In essence, he was enabling my bad behavior/habbits and then using it against me. I'm so glad he decided to leave on his own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 430716, member: 11965"] You described my husband so concisely! The twist for us was that when I got on him to step up and be a parent, he would push it back to me saying it was my job and his job was to bring home the paycheck. I wasn't even asking him to parent by himself, just actively back me up and repeat what I said, or even just remind ME what needed to be done. Yeah, giving his wife gentle reminders was too much work. The other twist is that I am a chronically disorganized hoarder, and have struggled with housework all my life. I fit the behavior, but not the thought process. I know kids learn better by example and am "trying harder" to fix my issues so I can do a better job of teaching them. (Seriously not a "lazy" thing since I'll spend hours with yardwork, have worked up to 3 jobs at a time, as a waitress, I kept things immaculate to the point my coworkers thought my house should look like a spotless museum, etc I just can't seem to get into a real housekeeping routine) In essence, he was enabling my bad behavior/habbits and then using it against me. I'm so glad he decided to leave on his own. [/QUOTE]
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